I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2024. Our relationship has to be on the down low / an open secret because dating isn’t permissible among his people. His family says they really like me, but they’d never accept me as his wife since I’m not Arab, maybe as a second wife, but the first wife has to be someone they approve of. I don’t want to be a second wife. I’m with him despite all of this because he treats me great, fucks me good, and gets me (he’s very open-minded and chill, and I feel fully comfortable with him). But I know he won’t go against his family for me because of $$$.
If you are fine being in the current situation, there is no rush.
But know that if you want more out of the relationship, it won’t happen. If/When you get there, if you don’t call it off, it will get harder and messier every day. So just be honest with yourself and your partner when the time comes.
The boundaries of the relationship have been set and the chances they change in the current situation aren’t that good. So as long and you are happy in the boundaries of the relationship, then you aren’t wasting time.