I am a white heterosexual cisman and I am constantly haunted by intrusive thoughts related to how I will perform or be perceived in bed.
Whenever I see depictions of gay - especially lesbian - relationships, I imagine the relationship being a lot less toxic, less detrimental to each other’s mental health and - most of all - less prone to performance related anxiety.[1]
Is this just prejudice[2] or is there some truth to it?


Exactly. I’m on antidepressants, plus my testicles don’t work so getting an erection can be a struggle.
But I sure do love getting the opportunity to use my tongue to get my wife there.