I am a white heterosexual cisman and I am constantly haunted by intrusive thoughts related to how I will perform or be perceived in bed.

Whenever I see depictions of gay - especially lesbian - relationships, I imagine the relationship being a lot less toxic, less detrimental to each other’s mental health and - most of all - less prone to performance related anxiety.[1]

Is this just prejudice[2] or is there some truth to it?

  1. I am fully aware of the hardships that homosexual people have to endure throughout their lives. This is an unrelated matter. ↩︎

  2. We all know how media and pornography paint a certain picture of homosexual relationships to serve heterosexual people. ↩︎

    • village604@adultswim.fanEnglish
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      9 hours ago

      You basically just flex the muscle you use to stop peeing.

      My recommendation is to start with one second on, one second off, then as that gets easy increase the time you flex for. A metronome app can be a huge help there.

      I use the android app Tack because it doesn’t have ads and the features behind a paywall aren’t something most people would care to use.

      I’d highly recommend doing it alongside ab exercises since it will also cause you to activate the ab muscles around the “cum gutter” area.