Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
The way he worded his question suggests that actually he might have some STDs. Because he didn’t say, hey, I got tested two months ago and haven’t slept with anyone around then or since. In other words, he could have comforted you on the STD front, but he chose not to, because he was accidentally being honest.
Also, because the two of you don’t know each other that well, it’s better for everyone if both parties are extra safe. Because you just don’t have that long track record.