Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
I a guy, and I’ve had a number of hookups, I wouldn’t ever even question someone asking me to wear a condom (though, to be fair, I’d choose to wear one also). You don’t know the other person. Unless you just really get the sense you can trust them, it could all be a lie. Your boundaries aren’t a debate. Honestly, if I were you, I would have kicked them out. If they’re questioning that boundary I wouldn’t want to find out where it ends.