Maybe I’m just too picky, but if the actor isn’t “my type” or I’m not attracted to him, I won’t enjoy the video. I have favorite actors (Jmac, Tommy Pistol, Ken Matsumoto, Charles Dera, Tyler Nixon, etc.), and a lot of the time I specifically look for videos with them instead of something new or random.
I’m curious what it’s like for you.
Not within my relationship, no. We talked about our boundaries and we’re both ok with the other having onlyfans accounts and such.
But we also are monogamish - we regularly invite thirds into our sex life and are more open than a strictly monogamous couple would be.
TIL monogamish = when youre not monogamous at all? You could just say poly instead lol
But we’re not poly. We don’t nurture relationships with other people. We’re just open to having sex with others on occasion.
Dan Savage originally came up with the term “monogamish”:
“Monogamish” is a relationship model coined by sex columnist Dan Savage to describe couples who are 90–95% monogamous but allow for occasional, agreed-upon outside sexual experiences.
Personally, I would call this “mono-romantic & poly-sexual” to avoid any ambiguity. “Monogamish” is right up there with “heteroflexible” - useful in a pinch, but requires a conversation to clarify.
I don’t think our situation falls into poly-sexual since it’s usually one night stand type of situations though.
Monogamish fits my relationship and it’s been a term in use for decades at this point.
I’m polyamorous and none us three would do that. It’s still a closed relationship - one night stands break that.
Y’all are definitely polysexual. It’s just a semi-open type rather than fully open like swingers.
Isn’t that an attraction to all genders? Why are you so hellbent on defining my relationship boundaries?
Last I checked that was pansexual. Idk where you got that definition though.
Just saying, the way you describe it comes off like the “no homo” guys is all 😅
I honestly just searched for it because I have never heard the term polysexual applied in this way. I also wasn’t trying to imply that polyamorous people engage in one night stands and casual sex, either, but you read into that as well.
I’m bisexual, I’ve been involved in the kink, poly, and LGBT+ community in my area for a long time. I wasn’t trying to “no homo” anything, I just prefer using the term monogamish to describe my current relationship because that describes it really well:
Huh.
So you’re occasional unicorn wranglers, basically?
Hadn’t heard of monogamish.
Yeah pretty much! Monogamish is just a fun word to describe being mostly monogamous with a little bit of extra sex lol
Kind of a long shot, but you have ever picked up a unicorn, at the Unicorn?
Been a while since I’ve been in Seattle, hah.
Hah while I’ve been lucky enough to have had drinks at the Unicorn, I didn’t pick anyone up there! Mostly have met people through Feeld or friends of friends tbh.
Well I hadn’t heard of Feeld either!
But if you ever do go back to the Unicorn…
Oh no.
I was gonna say you have to try the Deep Fried Snickers, but apparently I’ve been away from Seattle for longer than I realized… no longer on the menu =(
I’ve had a lot of success on feeld, both as a unicorn AND a unicorn “hunter”.
Damn, deep fried snickers sounds so good!
Fair enough, but to me that sounds like saying “i’m a vegan except when i eat meat” 😅
There’s a lot of different relationship types out there. It’s not the same as saying I’m a vegan except when I eat meat. That’s like saying pescatarians are the same as vegans which are the same as meat eaters.
I’ve been in plenty of relationship models - poly, swingers, group sex, etc. There’s distinct differences that should be respected in each.
Call me old fashioned but to me these kinds of details feel way too personal to use as outwardly defining properties of a relationship.
Like your arrangement, i’m pretty sure i would not communicate any of this to any person i don’t want to hook up with.
What the fuck kind of business is it of anyone else? Why is it relevant to anyone who and how i am fucking?
It depends on your community. My friend group knows we’re kind of open. My parents and family don’t know anything about our sex life. It just depends.
We use these terms for relationships within the kink and poly communities to signal to each other what our relationship statuses are. It’s not for the average person one runs into on the street.