That response was the explanation I was referring to, yes. I’m the one who upvoted it because it was a nice explanation. I deleted the comment I made that this was responding to. I’m pretty sure I’ve already deleted my own comments that sparked these exchanges, so you’ll only be able to find responses.
I tend to delete anything that causes me anxiety, both because the existence of the comment is causing me distress and also because I’m perpetually misunderstood. It always “feels” like I’m to blame for these stressful situations even when I know I’m not responsible.
The comms I’ve had this issue with always upvote my initial comment declaring my asexuality and then downvote the comment where I talk about trauma. Even without explanation that strikes me as a clear rejection.
Thanks for looking into this, I’m a little shocked someone took the time. It’s appreciated.
Ah, alright then. I only really found this thread so I didn’t know this has happened multiple times.
I can’t really help you with managing your anxiety, but I do have one piece of unsolicited advice: Since you are likely more sensitive with regards to your trauma (I mean, it’s somewhat impossible not to be), you could try to limit talking about it to safe® spaces, like queer communities or instances, in either of which you are less likely to be hurt/rejected.
But regardless, it should be pretty apparent by now that sexual trauma can affect sexuality in various ways. Like, I recall hearing of bisexual people who were sexually abused and lost parts of their attraction to their abuser’s gender. That should be fairly intuitive to most, it’s disappointing that people don’t treat your case the same.
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That response was the explanation I was referring to, yes. I’m the one who upvoted it because it was a nice explanation. I deleted the comment I made that this was responding to. I’m pretty sure I’ve already deleted my own comments that sparked these exchanges, so you’ll only be able to find responses.
I tend to delete anything that causes me anxiety, both because the existence of the comment is causing me distress and also because I’m perpetually misunderstood. It always “feels” like I’m to blame for these stressful situations even when I know I’m not responsible.
The comms I’ve had this issue with always upvote my initial comment declaring my asexuality and then downvote the comment where I talk about trauma. Even without explanation that strikes me as a clear rejection.
Thanks for looking into this, I’m a little shocked someone took the time. It’s appreciated.
Ah, alright then. I only really found this thread so I didn’t know this has happened multiple times.
I can’t really help you with managing your anxiety, but I do have one piece of unsolicited advice: Since you are likely more sensitive with regards to your trauma (I mean, it’s somewhat impossible not to be), you could try to limit talking about it to safe® spaces, like queer communities or instances, in either of which you are less likely to be hurt/rejected.
But regardless, it should be pretty apparent by now that sexual trauma can affect sexuality in various ways. Like, I recall hearing of bisexual people who were sexually abused and lost parts of their attraction to their abuser’s gender. That should be fairly intuitive to most, it’s disappointing that people don’t treat your case the same.