I’m all of the above (gay, bi, trans, gnome)

  • homes@piefed.world
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    20 hours ago

    It has been my experience that a lot of people don’t believe bisexual people even exist. It’s weird.

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      20 hours ago

      It’s probably more likely that straight people don’t even exist. Everyone is a little bit gay.

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        19 hours ago

        Careful with that line of thought; it also implies that everyone is a little bit straight.

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            19 hours ago

            The point I’m raising is that it’s dangerously close to telling a lesbian that they “just haven’t had the right dick yet”, etc.

            I don’t mean to rebuke, either. I made the exact same comment about everyone being a little bit gay when I came out back in high school, and was immediately met with the same response I gave.

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              15 hours ago

              While I take your point, the concept of telling a lesbian that they “just haven’t had the right dick yet” is almost always used as a slant to imply that they’d actually be happier if they were straight, not if they were bi/pan. It’s more saying “you’re wrong” rather than saying “you might enjoy something else in addition”.

              Being bisexual myself, I find monosexuality to be pretty weird and struggle to understand it. I tend to put people who identify as either straight or gay in the same camp - as just not being open-minded enough to explore what feels like the natural state to me; that all people are potential sexual candidates. While it’s a pretty blunt instrument, I tend to think of the Kinsey Scale as being normally distributed - that true 100% straight and 100% gay people probably exist but are extreme minorities.

              Again, that’s just my opinion, and it’s not one I’d ever levy at a person derogatorily. I just think as a species we haven’t yet come to the point of thoroughly and completely deconstructing the social and biological frameworks we’ve constructed around sexuality.