Hi, please be kind with me. I’m feeling really vulnerable and conflicted about this. I would really appreciate any help or comfort.

I had a bit too much to drink and had unprotected sex with a guy who was sober and came on my back, but it also got on the bed. I was too out of it to remember the exact timing but he said there’s no need to take plan B. I’m not on any birth control.

I’ve taken plan B twice before and read stories of how awful it is. I did feel very depressed and overwhelmed in the weeks after taking it, but that could also be explained by stressors that I was dealing with at the time. I’m worried about the side effects, especially considering this would be my third time taking it.

Should I take plan B? Can anyone who has taken it multiple times please share about the side effects and their experiences with it? Is the pull-out method less risky than I’m thinking it is, or is this not worth the gamble even if I didn’t need Plan B? A pregnancy would be a huge disruption, and I don’t even want to imagine it.

I’m also just feeling so lost, disoriented, and sad. I don’t do well with casual intimacy, yet I find myself getting into these situations. What should I be doing differently? Is it just a matter of drinking less or is there something more underlying that I need to process? I’ve noticed an increase in unprotected sex recently which makes me feel even worse about it all.

  • Rhaedas@fedia.io
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    20 hours ago

    The other comments have the question on pregnancy covered, but no one has yet addressed the root of the problem, your last question. And it’s a difficult one to answer on a forum since we don’t know you except for what you post. So while it may sound both cliché and passing the problem onwards, I’d say get some therapy. Not because there’s anything wrong with you, but you do seem to acknowledge that you’re getting into situations you don’t want to be in, and don’t feel great about it. Just talk therapy could help, let someone guide you to figure out the real issues that are driving you to this. Perhaps there’s specialty therapy for sex-driven behavior - a therapist would know if you need something more than general aid.

    Use this as a wakeup call and a motive to change, and get help in figuring out what needs to change, and why you’re in the spot you’re in. You aren’t alone in this, you just need to ask for help.