I already wrote everything out on a different comment but I wanna do an update and ask for advice

I kinda autismed my way into a date and I think I have an online girlfriend now???

I made a friend who is single who I met a couple days ago, and we were texting and she said that she’s a barista or something so I asked if she would show me how to work the coffee machines in a VRChat world and she agreed.

She had to take her estrogen shot and it happened to be my estrogen day too so we both took out estrogen on a discord call together.

Then we made matching strawberry iced drinks and were sitting together at a booth, we started chitchatting about jobs and college and stuff and how bad the state of computer science jobs are when she said “this isn’t really the kinda thing that you’re supposed to talk about on a date” jokingly. Then it hit me that you typically don’t just take estrogen together and go to a Starbucks alone platonically.

long story short we ended up falling asleep together watching an anime

she’s so pretty too, I genuinely have no idea how I managed to do this 😭😭

edit: come to think of it, she did ask me if I’m T4T (trans for trans) the other day…

she also is like an hour away from me too

so uh… idk what to do chat. I kinda just did it by accident. I’ve never been in a relationship before and especially not one as a woman, idk what to do 😭
should I ask to meet up irl, or keep it online for a while? if we do meet up, what would we do?
what’s the normal person thing to do in this situation?

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    Whoops, OP edited.

    you typically don’t just take estrogen together and go to a Starbucks alone platonically.

    You don’t? I don’t know about the particular significance of taking estrogen together but Starbucks? Why not? Also, this was all in VRChat, yeah?

    Anyway, chill. There is no “normal person” thing. You’ve only known her a couple of days, that’s far too early to decide ANYTHING. Continue chatting with her like you would a good friend, get to actually know her. When you do meet eventually irl, do it in a public space. A real Starbucks, I suppose. Or better yet, some local non-chain coffee place. Go from there.

    Also, there may be other, better places to post this and ask for relationship advice.