I already wrote everything out on a different comment but I wanna do an update and ask for advice

I kinda autismed my way into a date and I think I have an online girlfriend now???

I made a friend who is single who I met a couple days ago, and we were texting and she said that she’s a barista or something so I asked if she would show me how to work the coffee machines in a VRChat world and she agreed.

She had to take her estrogen shot and it happened to be my estrogen day too so we both took out estrogen on a discord call together.

Then we made matching strawberry iced drinks and were sitting together at a booth, we started chitchatting about jobs and college and stuff and how bad the state of computer science jobs are when she said “this isn’t really the kinda thing that you’re supposed to talk about on a date” jokingly. Then it hit me that you typically don’t just take estrogen together and go to a Starbucks alone platonically.

long story short we ended up falling asleep together watching an anime

she’s so pretty too, I genuinely have no idea how I managed to do this 😭😭

edit: come to think of it, she did ask me if I’m T4T (trans for trans) the other day…

she also is like an hour away from me too

so uh… idk what to do chat. I kinda just did it by accident. I’ve never been in a relationship before and especially not one as a woman, idk what to do 😭
should I ask to meet up irl, or keep it online for a while? if we do meet up, what would we do?
what’s the normal person thing to do in this situation?

  • TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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    17 hours ago

    From what I’ve experienced when connecting through daring apps, is if I feel there’s a click, meeting irl is a good idea. See if the click is also there when meeting. If not, you have a nice friendly meet up, no harm done, maybe there’s a nice new friendship instead. If there is a click, it’s a start of something beautiful.

    Keeping it online for too long has the risk of contact dying out after a while. So if you’re in a flow with connecting, step it up to irl and if the click is still there, you will both know it had a future and you will both know it’s worth investing into it.

    So go girl! I’m happy for you!

    And about what to do: go grab a coffee, or have a beer or something. Just low key, you don’t want to make it too bombastic the first time. It would put too much pressure and create high expectations. Something simple as a coffee does not do that, but is enough to have a fun time is the click is there. I would also advice to do it close to her place or close to yours, so afterwards you can go watch some anime together, have dinner etc so you can get out of a socal spot with others and be alone together if it feels right. Meeting in the middle makes that harder.