My DNA donors like to insist that they did “so many nice things” for me as a kid… Funny thing though, i only seem to remember the “Dad’s in a bad mood” beatings, the “you don’t need glasses, you’re just being dramatic” gaslighting to keep me blind for my first 17 years.
There’s a lot of things others insist have happened but I don’t remember. There’s also a lot of things I do remember and wish I didn’t.
Not remembering doesn’t bother me at all, the remembering thing bothers me quite a bit.
My DNA donors like to insist that they did “so many nice things” for me as a kid… Funny thing though, i only seem to remember the “Dad’s in a bad mood” beatings, the “you don’t need glasses, you’re just being dramatic” gaslighting to keep me blind for my first 17 years.
There’s more, but enough trauma dumping for today
Sounds like a classic case of raised by narcissists (etc)? They tend to only remember the good, while you only remember the bad.
Annoying how that works out. And when I say annoying, I mean infuriating.
The only thing i truly miss about Reddit was Doom scrolling the raised by narcissists sub
Edit: I just remembered a quote that your reply reminded me of; The axe doesn’t remember every swing, but the tree remembers every cut.