No. I am very much a CIS only kind of guy. Now would I abuse them or be mean? No. But sexual attraction is all about preferences. As a black guy here, will I be offended because some women do not want to date a black man? No. Their preference. Same here.

I’ve gone on dates with non-binary people, but usually they have off-putting personalities and beliefs or were quite rude and weird.

I get matches from them on dating apps too, but again, usually they are very hostile/angry or have other off-putting life-style stuff, like being poly, so I just don’t bother engaging.

I’d have no issue being in a relationship with a person, if they didn’t have the baggage or weird off-putting beliefs that seem to come with being non-binary. Especially the ‘edgelord’ personality nonsense that seems to be really common among queer/non-binary people. I have met queer folks who weren’t like that, but only in a non-romantic context, in romantic context the ones i attract are very much the teenage edgelords.

I like to think that i don’t really care what labels are in place as long as we’re compatible in the myriad of relevant departments.
However, my thought remains largely untested*

*Technically i have briefly dated a person who fluctuated between woman and NB, but idk if i count it for reasons that are my own.

In all honesty I don’t think I could handle it and I’d become toxic in some way eventually just because I probably couldn’t ever understand my partner to a level where I could consider them my partner.

… If that makes any damn sense

Hard to say. I’m into lady bits and not man bits, this is from experience. I have no issue finding a man attractive physically or even emotionally but sexually it’s a meh. Over my life I’ve had friends and acquaintances and colleagues that are of any gender and orientation, I don’t really care much in other relationships. I’ve dated bisexual and tomboys and I like confident women and I really like confident intelligent women despite myself being mid on smarts or maybe that’s why.

It probably comes down to some basic chemistry and if they are interesting people. If they have lady bits and “just are” NB, it probably doesn’t matter much. If it is their entire personality that they are NB, then I probably just don’t get romantically or sexually interested in the first place.

No, because I’m not dating at all.

Once one accepts that non-binary (NB?) people have the same humanity as any other person, a potential partner’s AGAB matters less. That’s my experience, anyway.

I’m demisexual, attracted to stereotypically feminine or androgynous bodies, and I’ve seen a number of very cute, penis-bearing women. If I had an emotional connection with a NB person or transwoman with the aforementioned body type, I think it’d be fun and exciting to see if we click romantically/sexually.

(answering as though I were single of course)

I would date them if I found them attractive (which implies more femme than not) and if they have a vagina, regardless of whether they always have.

I used to have a lot of exposure to different lifestyles due to being into BDSM and heavily involved in a trans-friendly group. One of my best friends fully transitioned with I think gave me a lot of insight.

I want to say first that I fully support the rights of all people to live their truth as they see it. I respect and value people regardless of what they have in their pants or who they choose to share that with.

I’m attracted to femme features and were I to date someone they would have to pass pretty well. I’m not viscerally disgusted by a penis, and I guess I’d be willing to experiment, but in the abstract I’m not attracted to them, I don’t get pleasure from anal play, and I don’t really like putting my dick in butts. Not totally opposed but it’s rare I’m in the mood for that — I have to be feeling very “top-y.”

So just don’t know that there is a lot of dating potential there. However I could use more friends and if someone wanted to hang out and talk nerdy shit over drinks in a romantic setting and call it a date, I’m in.

I will add that I’m married and while we are essentially monogamous, we aren’t strictly so and hypothetically if the right person came along that fit as a play partner or throuple, I wouldn’t care about gender or gender expression at all. As long as there is someone involved in an encounter who makes my junk tingle, it’s all good.

Probably not, just because I don’t think I can really relate to that identity. If I’m being honest, I just don’t really understand it. It seems more like a cultural phenomenon to me than a real identity that is based on some biological reality, even if just in the brain. I’m not saying I don’t think a brain biology couldn’t produce something like that, but it seems much more likely to be the product of cultural factors than that to me.

Probably not, because I’m generally not attracted to biological males as they usually don’t have the physical attributes I find attractive. Sure, feminine attributes can be achieved through surgery, drugs and makeup, but I’d prefer a natural woman and since there is that choice, that’s what I’d prefer.

Before you get upset, know that this is my honest opinion. I’ll respect you however you identify and will happily hang out with anyone. And I’m sure i’d find some non-binary folk physically attractive, but as I have a choice and I’m a cis hetro then that’s my answer.

If one would, you would assume that makes them pansexual instead of straight. no?

Date: sure, why not. I don’t want to die curious. But I’m really not into guys so if you come across as one I’ll pass, which makes it seem like I’d be wasting both of ours time by not going for a woman to begin with.

Yeah, if we were into each other. How they present and their AGAB matching my own preferences would be a factor.

But at the end of the day, my “straightness” is just a convenient label. If someone gets voted in by the Tribunal (Heart, Mind, and Cock), all labels are ultimately superfluous.

I’m aromantic so perhaps my view of “dating” doesn’t fit. And, before I say anything else I should preface that the sexual preferences of a random internet stranger (me) should not be taken as indicative of universal self worth or appeal. You are valid regardless of the opinions/proclivities of others, especially random internet strangers like me lol

Anyway, I am kind of on the ace spectrum. I’ve only really been with cis women and with them I’m just indifferent to sex. I thought it would be the same for men despite not feeling any attraction whatsoever towards them, so I decided to experiment.

Turns out I was quite wrong and I am actually viscerally repulsed by both men and male genitalia. I can’t just power through the grossness like I can with others.

So, I would be quite hesitant to date a nonbinary person with male genitals. My gay friends were very chill with my reaction in the experiments lol, but I get the feeling that if I did end up having a reflexive negative response to a nonbinary person, it would probably increase any dysphoria they feel and I don’t want to to do that to anyone.

I also dont feel attracted to anyone with facial hair (regardless of “biological sex”) so that might cut down on the nonbinary population I would have a desire to date too.

The main point Id like to make here is that gender in general stupid for many reasons including, in my opinion, trying to define attraction. I don’t care what pronouns someone uses or if how they dress aligns with a specific gender or what social norms they adhere to specific to genders. What is most important to attraction is, specifically, attraction.

Does this person have the seemingly random traits my brain likes and not the ones it dislikes? Great. Maybe for some people those attractive or repulsive attributes fall along gender lines perfectly but I seriously doubt that’s the case for anyone especially since gender lines are more gradients than lines in the first place.

I would probably be fine dating a nonbinary person who has the traits which I like (physical and non-physical btw, like idc if someone’s hot; if they’re rude or cruel to others, they can gtfo) and not traits I dislike but that’s kind of as specific as I can get and none of my attraction/repulsion stems directly from gender.

Anyway, I again would like to tell anyone reading this that if someone (including me) doesn’t find you attractive, it should have no bearing on how you see yourself or your perceived self worth. Tell yourself “they don’t know what they’re missing” and keep on being you because you’re awesome and they’re just some idiot whose opinion shouldn’t matter to you anyway. (Plus there is plenty more to life than sex, I mean who cares about sexual attraction when there is cool physics and mathematics to learn right?)