I used to have a lot of exposure to different lifestyles due to being into BDSM and heavily involved in a trans-friendly group. One of my best friends fully transitioned with I think gave me a lot of insight.

I want to say first that I fully support the rights of all people to live their truth as they see it. I respect and value people regardless of what they have in their pants or who they choose to share that with.

I’m attracted to femme features and were I to date someone they would have to pass pretty well. I’m not viscerally disgusted by a penis, and I guess I’d be willing to experiment, but in the abstract I’m not attracted to them, I don’t get pleasure from anal play, and I don’t really like putting my dick in butts. Not totally opposed but it’s rare I’m in the mood for that — I have to be feeling very “top-y.”

So just don’t know that there is a lot of dating potential there. However I could use more friends and if someone wanted to hang out and talk nerdy shit over drinks in a romantic setting and call it a date, I’m in.

I will add that I’m married and while we are essentially monogamous, we aren’t strictly so and hypothetically if the right person came along that fit as a play partner or throuple, I wouldn’t care about gender or gender expression at all. As long as there is someone involved in an encounter who makes my junk tingle, it’s all good.