• whoisearth@lemmy.ca
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    4 months ago

    I will argue smartphones or any electronic is not the problem. The problem is lazy parents.

    My kids all have had phones since before 10 and they’re all well adjusted but to be clear I monitor their usage and I check in with my kids regularly.

    I cannot hold back society or technology at the fear of my kids being left behind. What I can do is help them navigate both as they grow.

    I love how quick we are to lay the blame anywhere but parents.

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      4 months ago

      I strongly believe that a large part of the reason China is so strict with underage phone and game restrictions is because the parents are at work for too long to do any real parenting. Ideally parents should be the ones making those choices and actually monitoring their kids, but since I don’t have kids I can’t really say for myself.

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        4 months ago

        I’m always sus of anything the Chinese government does. I feel that governments restricting Internet usage is just a way to indoctrinate people with the media you (the state) shows them instead.

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        4 months ago

        This is an extremely reactionary take. I hear what you are saying but I draw the line as delusional and irresponsible unless you apply that to pretty much all parents that don’t completely smother their children.

        We make mistakes as we grow. We lie. We get hurt. Technology is always Pandora’s box. I’d argue we have better knowledge of our kids now than we ever used to and stats show the world is safer now than it has ever been.

        If you live in fear you will form your decisions from a place of fear.

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            4 months ago

            Ah yes. A phone is a car. Got it.

            Also, who tf is exploiting kids because they have a phone? Do you also remove all TVs from your house? What about the radio? Can’t have Lady Gaga singing about “poke her face” to my kids! Lol

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        4 months ago

        This is actually a good take. Kids aren’t miniature adults, they’re kids. They’re not helpless or useless, but neither are they fully morally and emotionally developed. They need guidance. Plenty of adults can’t responsibly handle internet access. I survived early onilne porn and gore and social media, but it’s not like any of it benefited me in a meaningful way.

        Some folks have an attitude that’s like “I touched hot stoves and I learned better”, but that’s far from ideal.