I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc
I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.
Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.
Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.
Because real life isn’t a movie filled with people standing by to assist the main character in the third act. People are generally shit, and you are the only person who actually cares about you. It sucks to learn this particular lesson in such a brutal way, but it’s an important lesson nonetheless. Move on and make this a footnote in your success story.
Signed, another person with your exact same experience.
Wait just a second. Im here man. Has things gotten better? You can be the main character of this thread, I’ll let you.
Yeah it’s all good. I appreciate the check in. I am remarried and am like pretty important in my field. That’s what I’m trying to say here - make a good life and this shit seems trivial. Don’t make someone else into a foundation of your ego. This isn’t some manoshpere shit, just acknowledging that adversity is optional growth.
I am way more upset about my dog who died ten months ago than anything involving my ex wife. If anything I’d like to take a moment to bring his life into our collective experience and spend a moment appreciating how much of a good boy he was until the very end.
Im sorry about the dog, man, death is death, you know. Love transcends species and that’s beautiful. There’s a hole where my dog use to be but I think its not as painful anymore. I think at this point I’m ready to let more love in. If youre not now and dont think you’ll ever be, I was there.
Hey thanks friend. Honestly we don’t deserve dogs, and I definitely didn’t deserve him but I’m really glad we got to spend our time together. im going to go cut an onion now.