I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc
I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.
Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.
Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.
Men may be taught not to care about randoms they don’t know, but not dudes they care about. What is more important is that guys are never taught and never see modeled, how to care for men during some important moments of life. Men don’t know how to care for each other anymore than women know how to care for men. Not that they don’t want to. How to care for a man during a divorce is not modeled by men or women, because society doesn’t actively care for men. It has to happen first for it to be modelled. Lots of men aren’t comfortable attempting to provide support in such vulnerable moments when they have no idea what to do.
Actually the main issue is men aren’t taught how to provide emotional support. I have difficulty with it myself. Heck, I think half of men can barely handle their own emotions properly, much less someone else’s.
Men are there for their bros. But generally men expect their bros to ask for more physical support. Lend a tool, some muscle, use their car, help them carry furniture, lend some cash. Men will be perfectly ok to help a bro out at the drop of a hat for things like that.
But ask how to figure out how to get over a relationship? Uhhh…
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