The thing is my wife cannot fathom she’s the toxic one, every time I mention it she gaslights me and says I’m victimizing myself, frankly her habit of belittling me at every step of so engrained in her everyday life that she doesn’t notice it at all, like basic things, her tone etc, sometimes she tries to justify that behavior because she’s doing everything and I’m just sitting don’t nothing, because she is the victim, and I should mam up and stop whining etc
Obviously not, I mean she’s a teacher so she spends more time at home, she drives kids to school, she does shopping etc, so she does more but it’s not like I just sit watching TV and drink beer when coming home after 8h at work
Have you tried couples therapy? Do you think that would improve the toxicity or your relationship?
The thing is my wife cannot fathom she’s the toxic one, every time I mention it she gaslights me and says I’m victimizing myself, frankly her habit of belittling me at every step of so engrained in her everyday life that she doesn’t notice it at all, like basic things, her tone etc, sometimes she tries to justify that behavior because she’s doing everything and I’m just sitting don’t nothing, because she is the victim, and I should mam up and stop whining etc
So… do you sit around doing nothing while she does everything?
Obviously not, I mean she’s a teacher so she spends more time at home, she drives kids to school, she does shopping etc, so she does more but it’s not like I just sit watching TV and drink beer when coming home after 8h at work
Man we have the same wife. I see you.