Yeah, I didn’t mean to suggest it was a “skill issues,” as the kids say these days. And I think it’s a pretty apt comparison to physically demanding tasks. Got a flex the social muscles or they atrophy, and the benefit is building a network.
I’m with you 100% though. I’m tired all the time, and sometimes the thought of going out and being “on” with people is daunting. And it’s funny, because my wife is like, you’re an ENFJ or whatever the fuck (I’m exactly as uneducated in that field as she is educated), and I try to tell her that despite how I was, how I am now is tired of social situations, generally. But I try to just eat it. And sometimes I don’t eat it and I sit at home and unwind. I just know that theres benefits to maintaining relationships, and that for some folks a text chain isn’t enough. I do wish that everyone was cool with texting, or even talking on forums like this, but I know that’s not the case generally.
I do feel like we’ve gotten into the weeds here. I just really believe in community, despite the fact that I’m a curmudgeon. I just imagine a world where we can’t perhaps communicate the way we do now. What are we left with? Well, the people whose homes I can walk to, essentially.
A lot of the people I regularly interact with are at a contra dancing venue. Does that not count as a community because I have to drive to interact with them instead of walking? (Genuine question; not intended as a gotcha.)
Also, keep in mind that my original comment to @ameancow@lemmy.world was responding to the following,
We have spurned community because it’s more tempting to hide inside and feel miserable and lonely. Losing community was how we lost civics and representation and basic human empathy. [emphasis mine]
Yeah, I didn’t mean to suggest it was a “skill issues,” as the kids say these days. And I think it’s a pretty apt comparison to physically demanding tasks. Got a flex the social muscles or they atrophy, and the benefit is building a network.
I’m with you 100% though. I’m tired all the time, and sometimes the thought of going out and being “on” with people is daunting. And it’s funny, because my wife is like, you’re an ENFJ or whatever the fuck (I’m exactly as uneducated in that field as she is educated), and I try to tell her that despite how I was, how I am now is tired of social situations, generally. But I try to just eat it. And sometimes I don’t eat it and I sit at home and unwind. I just know that theres benefits to maintaining relationships, and that for some folks a text chain isn’t enough. I do wish that everyone was cool with texting, or even talking on forums like this, but I know that’s not the case generally.
I do feel like we’ve gotten into the weeds here. I just really believe in community, despite the fact that I’m a curmudgeon. I just imagine a world where we can’t perhaps communicate the way we do now. What are we left with? Well, the people whose homes I can walk to, essentially.
A lot of the people I regularly interact with are at a contra dancing venue. Does that not count as a community because I have to drive to interact with them instead of walking? (Genuine question; not intended as a gotcha.)
Also, keep in mind that my original comment to @ameancow@lemmy.world was responding to the following,