I’ve had this discussion countless times on reddit, and every time some American comes up with a bunch of arguments that essentially boil down to “well my dad hit me and it stopped me from misbehaving, so I shall continue this tradition”.
Meanwhile it’s one of the most violent western societies. I wonder why. USA has about 6 times more intentional homicides than Denmark, for example.
I think people are jumping to the beating part but ignoring the rest. The thought process usually goes like “wow, my parents would’ve spanked me for doing that… but they’re not doing anything!”
It’s not about the beating. It’s about the kid being allowed to do whatever without any action from the parent. Because that’s usually how it goes when a kid is being a nuisance.
Not just Americans, corporal punishment is still acceptable in mainland China. I remember a teacher used a meter ruler and slapped a kid on the palm of their hands (it was a light slap, but still unacceptable in my opinion), I remember being so scared of it, not sure if I ever got slapped, but if I did, it probably became a suppressed memory since I can’t recall it. Parents can beat their kids in public and cops probably wouldn’t really do anything since its family matters. Fucking “Filial Piety” bs and all. I didn’t get “beaten” but I did get hit when I was younger, and it only stopped because I got too old and I could fight back, and also because we immigrated to the US where it’s less tolerated. Skill scolded me every chance she got. My brother also yells at me. Its chaos. Happens at least once a week.
I doubt my depression and anxiety issues will ever be solved.
My dad was occasionally beaten by his mom and dad in the 1950s and 60s, but his generation decided it was over with, and it also became illegal in the 90s. We’re in Denmark.
Cultural change can and will happen, you’ll be the agent of that when you’re older 😘 I believe in you!
I mean, I am not perfect, I also sometimes yell at my kids, but I also say sorry a lot, so… We’re only human.
I need to move there. We have never spanked our kids and they behave no worse than any other kids, and better than many.
Louis C.K. may be a bit of a creep, but one thing he said really resonates with me. Children are the only people we’re legally allowed to hit (in the U.S.). They are some of our most vulnerable people and we hit them. They rely on us to protect them, and we hit them. Fuck us for hitting our tiny, vulnerable babies. My wife wasn’t totally opposed to spanking before we had kids, but then we had kids and she can’t imagine hitting them. She’s a wonderful human.
I swear, Americans are obsessed with the idea that kids need a beating once in a while. That would get you arrested where I am from.
I’ve had this discussion countless times on reddit, and every time some American comes up with a bunch of arguments that essentially boil down to “well my dad hit me and it stopped me from misbehaving, so I shall continue this tradition”.
Meanwhile it’s one of the most violent western societies. I wonder why. USA has about 6 times more intentional homicides than Denmark, for example.
I think people are jumping to the beating part but ignoring the rest. The thought process usually goes like “wow, my parents would’ve spanked me for doing that… but they’re not doing anything!”
It’s not about the beating. It’s about the kid being allowed to do whatever without any action from the parent. Because that’s usually how it goes when a kid is being a nuisance.
Not just Americans, corporal punishment is still acceptable in mainland China. I remember a teacher used a meter ruler and slapped a kid on the palm of their hands (it was a light slap, but still unacceptable in my opinion), I remember being so scared of it, not sure if I ever got slapped, but if I did, it probably became a suppressed memory since I can’t recall it. Parents can beat their kids in public and cops probably wouldn’t really do anything since its family matters. Fucking “Filial Piety” bs and all. I didn’t get “beaten” but I did get hit when I was younger, and it only stopped because I got too old and I could fight back, and also because we immigrated to the US where it’s less tolerated. Skill scolded me every chance she got. My brother also yells at me. Its chaos. Happens at least once a week.
I doubt my depression and anxiety issues will ever be solved.
My dad was occasionally beaten by his mom and dad in the 1950s and 60s, but his generation decided it was over with, and it also became illegal in the 90s. We’re in Denmark.
Cultural change can and will happen, you’ll be the agent of that when you’re older 😘 I believe in you!
I mean, I am not perfect, I also sometimes yell at my kids, but I also say sorry a lot, so… We’re only human.
I need to move there. We have never spanked our kids and they behave no worse than any other kids, and better than many.
Louis C.K. may be a bit of a creep, but one thing he said really resonates with me. Children are the only people we’re legally allowed to hit (in the U.S.). They are some of our most vulnerable people and we hit them. They rely on us to protect them, and we hit them. Fuck us for hitting our tiny, vulnerable babies. My wife wasn’t totally opposed to spanking before we had kids, but then we had kids and she can’t imagine hitting them. She’s a wonderful human.