Forgiveness is not for the sake of the offender but for that of the offended. It is not conditioned on the deservedness of the offender. Nor does it require declining to seek an end to the offense.
In its most basic form, forgiveness means to let go of resentment towards the offender. Resentment is like a cancer that eats away inside of you while doing nothing to the person who wronged you. Letting go of it is a good thing. Even if the offender doesn’t deserve it.
Exactly this. Forgiveness is something you do when you’ve otherwise stopped the abuser. It’s not meant to be a tool to stop abuse. You need to stop the abuse by whatever means necessary, make sure it never comes back, THEN forgive the abuser and move on.
Forgiveness is not for the sake of the offender but for that of the offended. It is not conditioned on the deservedness of the offender. Nor does it require declining to seek an end to the offense.
In its most basic form, forgiveness means to let go of resentment towards the offender. Resentment is like a cancer that eats away inside of you while doing nothing to the person who wronged you. Letting go of it is a good thing. Even if the offender doesn’t deserve it.
Exactly this. Forgiveness is something you do when you’ve otherwise stopped the abuser. It’s not meant to be a tool to stop abuse. You need to stop the abuse by whatever means necessary, make sure it never comes back, THEN forgive the abuser and move on.
letting go and and ensuring that it doesnt happen again :)