For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!
Because I have spoken too many, many people who were circumcised, including my own older brother, who felt like they were mutilated/incomplete/disfigured. That’s generally how you would find out someone’s feelings on a subject? It seems like no circumcision would be the only way to guarantee someone doesn’t feel that way, because it’s always possible to have it done later in life by choice. That’s not pushing a narrative, that’s just facts.
Let me ask you a follow up question. Are you for or against minors that are transgender having sex change surgeries? Why or why not?
That’s a hell of a jump. I’m very ignorant on that topic and it’s a minefield. Which is what I suspect you’re aiming for here, baiting.
Back to where we started though… how would they know there is a difference if that’s their baseline experience? And it sounds like you learnt some individuals experiences, it can be risky expanding on those and assuming other people’s experiences are the same. But ironically… asking an individual what their experience was is exactly what I was trying to do when you jumped in
You’re right, it’s much different. Minors that are wanting sex change surgeries are both consenting, and have a medically necessary reason for getting them.
Then let’s also recommend removing every newborn’s left eye. If their baseline experience is having no depth perception, how would they know the difference, right? Pirates with an eye patch are sexy, and they won’t have issues with eye infections on that side anymore!
Where did I say that I think that not knowing with certainty implies the practice should be done?
I asked how we could know because it seems kind of tough to validate and that makes it interesting