I made a similar post a couple of years ago, but I think it’s time again after seeing a few nice-guy/incel posts here. So, guys who have made it to the other side, what would you say to your previous self? I’ll leave my own personal answer in a comment below.
One Key difference is that you are nice because you think it is good. Not because it will gain you something. The mindset is different. You don’t complain when you are nice and get nothing in return. Because you just did the right thing. Like you also don’t expect people to thank you for not punching them in their face when you walk by. Not punching them is simply the right thing to do. So now you are a baseline decent human.
OP saying “which worked” implies he hoped it would gain him something.