I made a similar post a couple of years ago, but I think it’s time again after seeing a few nice-guy/incel posts here. So, guys who have made it to the other side, what would you say to your previous self? I’ll leave my own personal answer in a comment below.
The reigning champion from this thread is “be someone other people want to be around”, which is admittedly a hard thing because it requires a lot of introspection.
I mean, I don’t expect people to want to be around me, because by and large I don’t like being around them in non-structured environments. So boardgames and RPGs help. Hence, bring the community.