I made a similar post a couple of years ago, but I think it’s time again after seeing a few nice-guy/incel posts here. So, guys who have made it to the other side, what would you say to your previous self? I’ll leave my own personal answer in a comment below.
Yes, I lost some really great people along the way. But I understand it perfectly now why they felt they had to move on from me.
I’m glad we can have conversations like this here. It feels really important to discuss this, and I hope the person I think that inspired you to make this post reads this and can turn his life around.
It isn’t always easy to publicly admit we used to be this way, but I feel it benefits the community as a whole.
That’s what I thought personally, there were some nice-guy incel posts being posted here, and I’m open about what I used to be. God knows when I was younger I was looking for guidance, I can’t imagine looking now and seeing all those “alpha male” bros on the internet, it probably is tempting. They’re saying all the easy answers, that it’s women’s fault, that you just gotta be more manly.
I’m proud of what this space is, where we can be open and honest, and I hope that the person who inspired the post reads through this. It is not the easy path, but it’s the best path forward.