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Cake day: February 22nd, 2026

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  • Freedom of speech doesn’t mean a guaranteed audience or platform.

    You can write whatever you want. No one is required to read it. No one is required to host it. If they do read it, they can say whatever they want about it.

    This is the fediverse. You can host your own instance and say whatever you want. No one else is required to federate with you.

    If you post something and people say it’s garbage, that’s not your freedom of speech being quashed. You spoke. Now they are using their freedom of speech in response.






  • It’s hard not to draw uncharitable conclusions when people you considered friends don’t reach out.

    They may be struggling, but that’s an explanation not an excuse. The sadness experienced by the person who never gets called, never gets invited, and feels forgotten, is real.

    You think about what they do spend time on. Who they do call. It invites comparison. Why did they invite them but not me? Do they not like me? Was it something I said? It’s impossible to know. They might not know themselves.

    I follow a guideline of “follow their behavior, and if you have extra emotional energy then model the behavior you want to see”. If they reach out sometimes, I’ll reach out sometimes. If they don’t, I don’t, until I feel like I have the extra energy to risk them blowing me off or whatever.