I’m probably just an asshole nobody wants to talk to, but I can hardly even get a reply text from anyone anymore. A couple people have told me that they are just feeling burnt out/depressed/etc and don’t have even enough energy to answer a message anymore. But I’ve also had some long time friends just entirely ghost me in the last year as well with no explanation. It feels like I’m surrounded by NPCs. I’ve basically just stopped reaching out to anyone at this point. Outside of my work, literally the only people I talk to are my parents, sister, and my girlfriend. Everyone else seems dead inside. I used to have at least 10 people who I could call on a moments notice and all of those people are gone.
yeah well if you put zero effort in, why should i give you any effort?
taking the LCD approach means you are NPC. you dont’ want to put effort into your interactions so be it. I do.
my baristas and such thank me for being so kind and treating them like people instead of NPCs. it’s nice. try it sometime.
Not everyone is an NPC. but the difference is the effort they make. people who make an effort ot treat me like a person and show they are a person aren’t NPCs. if you are unwilling to do that on principal, because you think others are not deserving of yourself, well yeah, of course you are NPC.
and yes, many people i meet FREAK OUT because I put effort into conversations. they regard me as ‘too intense’ because i actually ask them questions and ask them to think. I’ve had so many girlfriends break up with me because 'it is too much work to be around you, i don’t want to think about things I just want to not think or make any effort."
some people actively embrace being NPCs, which is fine. their life goal is to be lifeless, boring, and safe as possible. to minimize thought and individuality and oftentimes attack anyone who demonstrates it. but I am not interested in socializing with them.