• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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    1 hour ago

    Hey uh, that second paragraph?

    I am not a psychologist, but:

    unrequested unprofessional psych evaluation

    Thats probably a sign of something like being raised by abusive narcissists.

    Your natural instinct is ‘it has to be my fault’?

    Yeah.

    Because narcissists tell other people its always their fault, its their flaw or poor decision.

    Its a form, or aspect or manifestation of hypervigilance.

    Because you are so used to some new problem happening that is somehow, your fault or responsibility to fix, or address.

      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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        20 minutes ago

        Well the good news is:

        1. That literally is not your fault.

        2. You can learn to gradually undo some of those tendencies, to some extent.

        My lemmy instance has a series of random… header quotes, like flavortext in a game loading screen or something.

        One of them, which ironically seems to be an apocryphal, misattirubted quote, but is still a good sentiment nonetheless:

        “Before you determine that you suffer from depression or low self-esteem, first, make sure that you are not simply surrounded by assholes.”