Hard to say. Having only experienced having a girlfriend this year in my mid 30s, the breakup turned all the memories to pain. I think I’d have overall been happier without them at all. Especially since the relationship had come at a time when I finally felt securely past my traumas and had learned to love myself as I was. Now I have to try to do that all over again with freshly resurfaced and reinforced trauma.
It never gets easier imo. The more you love the other person the harder it hits. Just know that all relationships end on a long enough time scale. The amount of pain you feel can be evidence of the amount love you felt in the relationship. I hope you keep loving despite the inevitable pain that comes with it.
A relationship ending because we grew old together or something is fine to me, at least theoretically. It’s the rejection that hurts. The knowledge that everything up to that point meant nothing to her in the end
Hard to say. Having only experienced having a girlfriend this year in my mid 30s, the breakup turned all the memories to pain. I think I’d have overall been happier without them at all. Especially since the relationship had come at a time when I finally felt securely past my traumas and had learned to love myself as I was. Now I have to try to do that all over again with freshly resurfaced and reinforced trauma.
It never gets easier imo. The more you love the other person the harder it hits. Just know that all relationships end on a long enough time scale. The amount of pain you feel can be evidence of the amount love you felt in the relationship. I hope you keep loving despite the inevitable pain that comes with it.
A relationship ending because we grew old together or something is fine to me, at least theoretically. It’s the rejection that hurts. The knowledge that everything up to that point meant nothing to her in the end