Remember those parents forgetting their toddlers in cars on hot summer days? Being forgetful is a sin in the sense that if you don’t work to resolve it early or be mindful of it, that parent could one day be you.
The happiness vs potential is kinda shitty. But the world’s a shitty place. Having the skills to cope with it is overall better than not. A balance should be sought.
Some consider rest and restful activity as different, but yeah, all work and no fun makes for a dull child. Or something like that.
Physical encouragement is seen as education in a world where education is woefully underfunded.
Intimacy with strangers can be considered as unburdening your worries unilaterally unto them. This can be seen as rude or unwelcome when affected by social woes.
Etiquette at its core is a form of respect, mindfulness and appreciation. However it is a representation of snobbism when applied artificially.
Except that being forgetful isn’t something you can magically fix. Take it from someone with severe ADHD, I wish I weren’t as forgetful as I am, but there is nothing I can do about that for most things. “Resolve it early” is such an ableist and completely dismissive take that I can’t see how anyone would ever believe that’s a legitimate answer.
That isn’t what the post is about. It’s about the fact that society (specifically neurotypicals) believe that fulfilling the expectations of what others have for you is more important than your own happiness. That is the product of late stage capitalism, and is an utterly depressing way of viewing people. It distills people into simply the role that they serve for you, dehumanizing us. You can’t seriously be defending that? “Oh, you have a complaint about how the world works? I don’t care, learn to deal with it”. People are allowed to have disagreements about how things work and point out the disservice it does to humanity. Your ignorance and dismissal of that fact is insensitive.
Still being dismissive; it’s very clear what they’re talking about, and you do nothing but whine about semantics by pointing this out.
Missing the point completely here. One should be allowed to decide who they show physical affection to. It is not our responsibility as humans to serve the needs of other people against our will, yet that is exactly what we are expected to do.
Where is this one even coming from? I see nothing here about intimacy with strangers. If you’re going in order through this list, I can only assume you’re talking about the point discussing informing people of your preferences? I don’t see anything intimate about that whatsoever. I certainly don’t see anything even remotely alluding to “unloading your worries” onto them.
Etiquette, at its core, was invented by the rich as a way to seem superior to the poor. It exists solely to enforce classism through meaningless mannerisms that serve no positive function. It exists to serve rich people with a superiority complex, and to degrade those of lower class. It isn’t a form of respect; it’s an artificial system that was created so the rich can look down at the “uncivilized” poor.
See? I can be dismissive of your entire comment, too. Except my points have an actual basis in reality, which seems to be missing from much of your comment. :3
What are you doing here, anyway? You see a post indicating the things that someone has learned through childhood trauma, and just make it your mission to invalidate all of their experiences? For those of us who have experienced the same trauma (mostly us neurodivergent folks), this post serves as a relatable way to lighten our mood, by acknowledging our shared trauma. There is nothing “dark” or “upsetting” about this to anyone with a soul. If your first instinct when hearing about the grievances someone has with the world is to attack them for speaking their truth, then I hardly have to wonder what kind of person you are.
The post isn’t positive or helpful. It reinforces negativity, feeds anger and increases overall stress. The dark side doesn’t have cookies, it feeds on suffering, both of oneself and to others.
I don’t see why a momentary boost with long term unwelcome side effects is preferable to a steadier, but more durable approach on life.
It is helpful. Being aware of these behaviours and how they could potentially map onto you is immensely valuable. You can’t fix a problem if you’re not aware of it
Sometimes you have to go through the dark to get to the light
And how is my comment not going through the dark to get to the light?
I see a dark post and I’m going through it to show a bit of light on things.
Just because some people disagree with what the light shows doesn’t mean they should crawl back into the dark and hiss at what they see.
Remember those parents forgetting their toddlers in cars on hot summer days? Being forgetful is a sin in the sense that if you don’t work to resolve it early or be mindful of it, that parent could one day be you.
No joke, that worry kept me up on more than a few nights because I’m forgetful as hell.
While my kid was that young, I had a stuffie that was in their car seat when they weren’t, and it went on the passenger seat anytime they were in the car. Thankfully nothing ever happened, but that was one of the many anxieties that came during the pandemic…
Remember those parents forgetting their toddlers in cars on hot summer days? Being forgetful is a sin in the sense that if you don’t work to resolve it early or be mindful of it, that parent could one day be you.
The happiness vs potential is kinda shitty. But the world’s a shitty place. Having the skills to cope with it is overall better than not. A balance should be sought.
Some consider rest and restful activity as different, but yeah, all work and no fun makes for a dull child. Or something like that.
Physical encouragement is seen as education in a world where education is woefully underfunded.
Intimacy with strangers can be considered as unburdening your worries unilaterally unto them. This can be seen as rude or unwelcome when affected by social woes.
Etiquette at its core is a form of respect, mindfulness and appreciation. However it is a representation of snobbism when applied artificially.
Except that being forgetful isn’t something you can magically fix. Take it from someone with severe ADHD, I wish I weren’t as forgetful as I am, but there is nothing I can do about that for most things. “Resolve it early” is such an ableist and completely dismissive take that I can’t see how anyone would ever believe that’s a legitimate answer.
That isn’t what the post is about. It’s about the fact that society (specifically neurotypicals) believe that fulfilling the expectations of what others have for you is more important than your own happiness. That is the product of late stage capitalism, and is an utterly depressing way of viewing people. It distills people into simply the role that they serve for you, dehumanizing us. You can’t seriously be defending that? “Oh, you have a complaint about how the world works? I don’t care, learn to deal with it”. People are allowed to have disagreements about how things work and point out the disservice it does to humanity. Your ignorance and dismissal of that fact is insensitive.
Still being dismissive; it’s very clear what they’re talking about, and you do nothing but whine about semantics by pointing this out.
Missing the point completely here. One should be allowed to decide who they show physical affection to. It is not our responsibility as humans to serve the needs of other people against our will, yet that is exactly what we are expected to do.
Where is this one even coming from? I see nothing here about intimacy with strangers. If you’re going in order through this list, I can only assume you’re talking about the point discussing informing people of your preferences? I don’t see anything intimate about that whatsoever. I certainly don’t see anything even remotely alluding to “unloading your worries” onto them.
Etiquette, at its core, was invented by the rich as a way to seem superior to the poor. It exists solely to enforce classism through meaningless mannerisms that serve no positive function. It exists to serve rich people with a superiority complex, and to degrade those of lower class. It isn’t a form of respect; it’s an artificial system that was created so the rich can look down at the “uncivilized” poor.
See? I can be dismissive of your entire comment, too. Except my points have an actual basis in reality, which seems to be missing from much of your comment. :3
What are you doing here, anyway? You see a post indicating the things that someone has learned through childhood trauma, and just make it your mission to invalidate all of their experiences? For those of us who have experienced the same trauma (mostly us neurodivergent folks), this post serves as a relatable way to lighten our mood, by acknowledging our shared trauma. There is nothing “dark” or “upsetting” about this to anyone with a soul. If your first instinct when hearing about the grievances someone has with the world is to attack them for speaking their truth, then I hardly have to wonder what kind of person you are.
You could, I dunno, block this instance? This isn’t Reddit m8, we don’t want to hear your shitty hot takes.
No. Everything is a shitty hot take. Tis the way of meme generation.
“I’m gonna take this vent post about childhood trauma, and go out of my way to invalidate and be dismissive of every point individually. That will surely be helpful for others with similar trauma engaging with this post.”
– You
The post isn’t positive or helpful. It reinforces negativity, feeds anger and increases overall stress. The dark side doesn’t have cookies, it feeds on suffering, both of oneself and to others.
I don’t see why a momentary boost with long term unwelcome side effects is preferable to a steadier, but more durable approach on life.
You do you, but I still think it’s bad for you.
It is helpful. Being aware of these behaviours and how they could potentially map onto you is immensely valuable. You can’t fix a problem if you’re not aware of it
Sometimes you have to go through the dark to get to the light
And how is my comment not going through the dark to get to the light? I see a dark post and I’m going through it to show a bit of light on things. Just because some people disagree with what the light shows doesn’t mean they should crawl back into the dark and hiss at what they see.
Good job at being an insensitive prick
Thanks.
No joke, that worry kept me up on more than a few nights because I’m forgetful as hell.
While my kid was that young, I had a stuffie that was in their car seat when they weren’t, and it went on the passenger seat anytime they were in the car. Thankfully nothing ever happened, but that was one of the many anxieties that came during the pandemic…