Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
Guy is a dangerous idiot. You should always use protection.
Always is a stretch. Plenty of scenarios where it’s fine, including when both adults understand and consent. But that’s an aside in my opinion. If OP wants to use one then there’s nothing to debate. No condom, no sex.
Not even then: people are fallible, partners can cheat, and admitting that creates a compromising predicament for the person least likely to admit it. It’s in everyone’s interest of health to simply take all sensible precautions regardless. Only reason not to is when you want to conceive.