• SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            10 hours ago

            That’s … not a good opener if you want to find yourself a real Domme.

            You should be more respectful, at least to begin with.

            • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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              8 hours ago

              I’ve found a cocky grin with a “hey” goes really far when hitting on dommes irl. But I also have fuckboi energy so it fits the vibe.

              For any fellow subs reading this, you hit on dominant women like any other woman. When it comes time to flirtatiously joke around, then you can make some jokes about being submissive, but you want to have the situation felt out enough that you’re confident that she’s flirting back and that she’s receptive to such jokes. You never want to come off as a pushy sub, a lot of dommes have bad experiences with them (hell, even I, a sub, have had one)

              • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                8 hours ago

                Exactly. Though if you’re being a good little worm you shouldn’t need to make jokes about being a sub for her to know what the deal is.

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                  7 hours ago

                  Unfortunately for me, many people read extroversion and confidence as dominance, so i have to be quite clear how easy it is to bring me to my knees and that no I really don’t switch

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                    2 hours ago

                    Ha! That’s a good point - I’m on the flip side, socially I’m quiet and introverted, and I’ve had to lay down the law a couple of times due to crossed wires

                  • Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                    5 hours ago

                    Big time feels.

                    Also apparently (in my experience) being a male means I’m automatically in charge all the time :(