Yes, but also some of polyamory is that not every relationship has to be “we cohabit and have kids and can deal with every single little quietly annoying thing the other does”. Some relationships are focused on sex. Some are focused on breaking into aquariums together. Some are with people across the country and even though you are close it doesn’t make sense to get together more than once a year. Although polyamorous relationships can look like monogamy*2, part of the point is that more focused, smaller relationships can also be romantic.
That does make intuitive sense, but archeology shows otherwise. There was a much bigger diversity of gender roles and relationship structures/child rearing systems, including in agricultural societies.
The modern almost universal ideal of romantic monogamous nuclear relationships was born from romantic (as in the movement) puritan petit bourgeois ideals in the 19th century.
Working class women during the medieval age for example, worked and lived outside the home, had affairs etc. This changed around the 18th century with the hegemony of the bourgeoisie and working class mirroring of their ideals.
Basically while it’s true that patriarchal strictly dichotomous societies existed for as long as we can tell, And that they have prevailed and “won out”. But doesn’t mean they are the norm for humanity. Their universality is extremely recent.
The trick is that non-monogamous relationships are not a collection of monogamous relationships where everyone has to fulfill each other’s needs and desires.
Also relationships don’t have to last forever. You can grow together and grow apart over time without fear of being “forever alone” when you’re in a plural relationship.
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Yes, but also some of polyamory is that not every relationship has to be “we cohabit and have kids and can deal with every single little quietly annoying thing the other does”. Some relationships are focused on sex. Some are focused on breaking into aquariums together. Some are with people across the country and even though you are close it doesn’t make sense to get together more than once a year. Although polyamorous relationships can look like monogamy*2, part of the point is that more focused, smaller relationships can also be romantic.
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Just a small correction: most people look at relationships in terms of some very rigid ideals that were set a couple centuries ago at most.
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That does make intuitive sense, but archeology shows otherwise. There was a much bigger diversity of gender roles and relationship structures/child rearing systems, including in agricultural societies.
The modern almost universal ideal of romantic monogamous nuclear relationships was born from romantic (as in the movement) puritan petit bourgeois ideals in the 19th century.
Working class women during the medieval age for example, worked and lived outside the home, had affairs etc. This changed around the 18th century with the hegemony of the bourgeoisie and working class mirroring of their ideals.
Basically while it’s true that patriarchal strictly dichotomous societies existed for as long as we can tell, And that they have prevailed and “won out”. But doesn’t mean they are the norm for humanity. Their universality is extremely recent.
Tell me more about this breaking into aquariums together?
What, are you a cop? No officer, I’ve never broken into an aquarium. Is there even an aquarium in town?
It’s just something poli people do you wouldn’t get it.
Fish get caught through the mouth
yes please us 3 could do it
The trick is that non-monogamous relationships are not a collection of monogamous relationships where everyone has to fulfill each other’s needs and desires.
Also relationships don’t have to last forever. You can grow together and grow apart over time without fear of being “forever alone” when you’re in a plural relationship.
I am currently in this actual situation!
It has been wild getting here, but i am married, and dating my wife’s girlfriend. We’re all grown, functional adults in our 30’s, too!
It is delightful, and does make me feel like im a character in some really good smut, no lie. I am lucky. And happy.
Surprisingly insightful for a meme post.
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