• GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            12 days ago

            It’s not an accessibility issue, it’s an immediate circumstance issue. My wife just wants me to hold off until we get pregnant with one more kid. Appreciate it, though!

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                12 days ago

                Technically yes, but it’s not as simple as going to the doctor and having them put a baby into a womb.

                It is insanely expensive. It also requires weeks or months of daily injections (sometimes multiple daily, sometimes subq sometimes IM) for my wife, a lot of discomfort as her hormones are altered to unnatural levels to force her ovaries to swell up and overproduce eggs, a surgical procedure to extract eggs. All of that brings no guarantee for a successful extraction, viable embryo, or successful transfer/implementation; so, we may have to do it all again meaning I still would probably be putting HRT off until we get a successful result.

                Last time we did it we only got a handful of eggs and only one of those produced a viable embryo. I wouldn’t want to put all my remaining eggs (sperm?) into that basket.

                My wife accepts me for who I am, she’s sticking with me, and she’s on board with HRT. I think her request is more than reasonable considering how so many other spouses react to their partner coming out. I’m happy to wait a bit longer if that means she can avoid taking on all that additional discomfort and financial stress. This is what we’ve agreed to and I’m good with it.

                • birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                  12 days ago

                  Understandable, it rocks to hear that she’s so supportive :)

                  a few additional thoughts on procedure & hrt

                  yeah, it’s unfair imo, now that i realise. the procedure differs so much depending on whether the one freezing their reproductive cells has sperm or egg cells.

                  on the regard of HRT, once you’ll do that, my only word of recommendation is to avoid spray (as it’s ineffective).

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          12 days ago

          I feel myself comfortable even without hrt, though i might get it some day because i am balding.

          • birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            12 days ago

            Word of advice beforehand, go to your GP for advice, not from internet strangers.

            That said, for most of the baldness in testosterone-predominant bodies, it’s oxidative stress, scalp microbiome, genetics, and dihydrotestosterone that cause it.

            There are various treatments for that that don’t require HRT. You can have a hair transplant, but if you do take HRT, finasteride and dutasteride could be possibilities.

        • SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          12 days ago

          True!

          And some of us are just naturally horny.

          But I will say that a lot of the hornyposting here seems to be transfem in origin (although that might just be selection bias on my part 😅)