Going to therapy is like going to shaman or crystal-ball damme: you don’t know why but sometimes it works. Near to “always” you waste your resources and time and reveal shameful secrets to an unknown person.
If you’re honest about your shit, therapists are there to help you look at things from a different perspective.
If you’re not going to be honest it’s garbage in/garbage out.
You also need to find a therapist you vibe well with. If you don’t believe in Jesus and they tell you to follow Jesus, that shit isn’t going to work. Your first session should be you interviewing them while they ask you questions.
No, I’ve had similar experiences. If your experiences/perspectives are considerably outside the norm, many “shrinks” - who likely are among “the norm” - just don’t get it. Never mind there’s always some who are just there for the money - my mother was quite happy with hers because he told her what she wanted to hear, which ultimately caused more harm than good.
EDIT: Political/religious leanings also often play into how things go.
Absolutely this, I had one assigned therapist/* who really turned my life around and it was all because she’d been through the meat grinder when she was younger too.
Going to therapy is like going to shaman or crystal-ball damme: you don’t know why but sometimes it works. Near to “always” you waste your resources and time and reveal shameful secrets to an unknown person.
If you’re honest about your shit, therapists are there to help you look at things from a different perspective.
If you’re not going to be honest it’s garbage in/garbage out.
You also need to find a therapist you vibe well with. If you don’t believe in Jesus and they tell you to follow Jesus, that shit isn’t going to work. Your first session should be you interviewing them while they ask you questions.
There’s also ones that totally suck.
I don’t think those are therapists you’ve been seeing…
No, I’ve had similar experiences. If your experiences/perspectives are considerably outside the norm, many “shrinks” - who likely are among “the norm” - just don’t get it. Never mind there’s always some who are just there for the money - my mother was quite happy with hers because he told her what she wanted to hear, which ultimately caused more harm than good.
EDIT: Political/religious leanings also often play into how things go.
Absolutely this, I had one assigned therapist/* who really turned my life around and it was all because she’d been through the meat grinder when she was younger too.
I mean, maybe a bad therapist…Which I will fully admit there are A LOT of bad therapists out there.
Some of those crystal doms are real good, hot wax, rope, the whole bit. All my mommy issues were resolved in 6 sessions
What even are crystal dommes? Like leather dommes, but kitted out for an 80s party at the disco?
Damme, dama, lady… I believed that “damme” was right (a game manufactured by Chinese used “Damme” in english)
You are not mistaken
… and if you didn’t have mommy issues before … you sure do now