• 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒆𝒍@sopuli.xyz
    24·
    2 months ago

    I’m currently living with my toxic wife because in case of a divorce I’d have to rent an apartment (we live at her parents), buy and maintain a car (Europe here, we can perfectly live with one car per household), pay child support and try to live on top of that

    Also I’m kinda too lazy for that

    • Washedupcynic@lemmy.caOPEnglish
      131·
      2 months ago

      Have you tried couples therapy? Do you think that would improve the toxicity or your relationship?

      • 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒆𝒍@sopuli.xyz
        72·
        2 months ago

        The thing is my wife cannot fathom she’s the toxic one, every time I mention it she gaslights me and says I’m victimizing myself, frankly her habit of belittling me at every step of so engrained in her everyday life that she doesn’t notice it at all, like basic things, her tone etc, sometimes she tries to justify that behavior because she’s doing everything and I’m just sitting don’t nothing, because she is the victim, and I should mam up and stop whining etc

          • 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒆𝒍@sopuli.xyz
            2·
            2 months ago

            Obviously not, I mean she’s a teacher so she spends more time at home, she drives kids to school, she does shopping etc, so she does more but it’s not like I just sit watching TV and drink beer when coming home after 8h at work