Yes, this is a real Am I The Asshole, not one where the answer is super obvious and the user is just looking to have their ego stroked.

My SO has BDD and genuinely thinks they look ugly naked. I think they’re 1000% incorrect and that they’re the sexiest human alive, and I would die happy if I could see them naked all the time.

I was diagnosed with a condition called Cone Rod Dystrophy which basically means I’ll lose color vision, then all vision. The timeline is anywhere from next week to 50 years from now.

I want to see them naked every chance I can get so I can cement it in my head before I go blind, but I feel gross for posing that as a reason to let me see them naked.

Like, in the 10 years we’ve been together I’ve never even asked them for a hand job if they didn’t feel up to sex because I didn’t want to seem like a callous asshole, so this would be a big ask from me.

To add in complications, they’re also on the spectrum. Not a criticism since I’m most likely on it too.

  • snooggums@piefed.worldEnglish
    11·
    24 days ago

    I may react initially negatively, but I am open to coercion.

    You are open to being convinced.

      • snooggums@piefed.worldEnglish
        51·
        24 days ago

        No you don’t. :p

        Manipulation and coercion when used for dialogue and arguments are inherently negative. That is the meaning that the words carry. Trying to use them in the way that you did means you used the wrong words when trying to communicate with anyone else.

          • Cryptagionismisogynist@lemmy.worldEnglish
            1·
            23 days ago

            Lol you’re just a boring narcissist advocating for conditional love and emotional abuse.

            Recommend the books Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist, and The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans and Controlling People by Patricia Evans. And Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft. Many available for free as pdfs or from local libraries.