I only seem to feel like my best self when I’m high on thc as I quit alcohol for the time being. I just feel as happy as a kid when I’m high. I feel very bland when I’m sober. I just can’t see being completely sober from weed too.

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    If you can’t feel joy with substances that means you’re an addict. You need professional help probably.

    But speaking more generally, your issue is you think ‘happiness’ is an emotional high you have to chase. What you don’t get is that happiness isn’t some intense feeling of joy… it isn’t. It’s the ability to self-regulate and to stop chasing the highs and the lows. It’s realizing the ‘bland’ feeling is good. You should be feeling bland.

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      Well, in this society, I totally understand people needing substances to be honest.

      What is there to be happy about in day to day? Maybe when you are a teenager, that girl brings you happiness. But its not a lot of happiness in the daily work routine that goes on for 50 years.

      Actually you are meant to be sad so you consume stuff. That bland feeling you mention. Very good, you will buy shit to get out of it temporarily. Icecream, games, phones, movies, you name it.

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        Your life is probably better than the vast majority of other people. But you choose to fixate on it being crappy for whatever reason.

        It’s your choice. But people like you weirdly seem to fixate on that ‘oh if only i had more stuff than my life would be so much better’.

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          No im happy and I dont need more stuff. But I know what you are saying. Many people want more things.

          Sometimes its very valid. If you cant find somewhere to live to start your life, that really sucks. But if you cant buy the latest car, well, not worth being sad about.