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Professional developer and amateur gardener located near Atlanta, GA in the USA.

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  • I fought for getting a 4/5 rating at an old job and gave lots of examples. Their argument was that I didn’t deserve it because those were just expected. I pointed out my work compared to others in my team and was told that it compares across the company, not the team. I kept causing a fuss about it because I was so angry about it and finally my manager said something about the bonuses has already been communicated and people would be angry to get less. I was confused because I didn’t want more money, I was just offended they said I was performing on average when I was going above and beyond every day. It was also really embarrassing to me. If they’d just said the rating doesn’t affect anything except your bonus I wouldn’t have even cared.

    The whole thing is all BS.










  • I used to had linux mint in an old computer and for some reason the wifi didn’t work.

    To me this implies it isn’t their primary computer. It’s not “manipulating and humiliating” someone else. It’s just saying, “you’ve been saying you’d fix this but it hasn’t worked, I need to use this computer for something.”

    And no need to feel sorry for my wife. We’ve been together over half our lives, married for over a decade, and extremely happy with each other. My wife has done things like this to me. It’s not toxic or manipulative. Sometimes I overestimate my own skills and/or get distracted with other things.


  • Why? Imagine your house’s door doesn’t work so you have to make a long trip through the back. You keep asking your partner to fix it. They insist they’ll get the door working. Either they can’t or don’t, doesn’t matter, but you have the money and are willing to pay for someone to fix it. Your partner insists they can fix it. I think it’s reasonable to say something like “if it’s not fixed in two weeks I’m paying someone to fix it.”




  • JackbyDev@programming.devtomemes@lemmy.worldEmpath
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    6 days ago

    I have empathy. I am not trolling. Just having a discussion online. Tone doesn’t always come across well oger text. Just thought it was important to share that I really really don’t think people who say things like this are saying empathy is bad.


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    6 days ago

    And I’ve met plenty of people who can pick up on people’s moods and know that people who mock others’ misfortunes are cruel without calling themselves empaths.

    For what it’s worth, that’s essentially how Wikipedia describes it:

    Empath (/ˈɛmpæθ/; from Ancient Greek ἐμπάθεια (empátheia) ‘passion’) is a term for people who are claimed to have a higher than usual level of empathy.

    In parapsychology, the mechanism for being an empath is said to be psychic channeling; psychics and mediums say that they channel the emotional states and experiences of other living beings, or the spirits of dead people, in the form of “emotional resonance.” Studies of such claims have found them to be the result of mundane empathy and charisma, with no actual supernatural capabilities involved.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empath