Cutting my hair short (like masc).
Folks insisted “but [my] hair is so nice”, “what if you regret it?” And “but you won’t be able to tie it back.”
I finally feel like me. I’m almost mad at myself for not doing it like ten years ago. I’m so genuinely happy over a friggin haircut. It’s wild.
Spent a fuck load of money on a quality bed set.
Physical therapy
Living alone
Downward facing dog -> upward facing dog -> child pose
My lower stomach and digestion work so much better when I remember to do this.
How long do you recommended doing each pose for?
Tell me more!
I mean that is kinda it, it is a simple body motion I never learned until yoga that clearly I was supposed to be doing because my body just digests/does all the gassy stuff better, this whole time I just didn’t know.
No one told me “Do downward facing dog, your tummy will feel better!” I just discovered it from doing it so I feel like I wish I discovered that way sooner.
Hear me out:
Bamboo pajamas
I WFH so negl I am in jammies most of the time (yeah I throw on a corporate tshirt for the annoying “cams-on” zooms but still wearing jammie bottoms)
Wife got bamboo onesies for the baby. So soft. Then she found they also make adult jammies of the same material. Omfg. Where was this all my life till now?
You have not lived till you wear soft bamboo clothes. Worth every penny.
I remember hearing back during COVID when everyone was WFH that sales of business pants had tanked. Sales of business shirts hadn’t. So that tracks.
Meditation and philosophical inquiry. Spent a lot of time believing the default vaguely-Christian-materialist-dualist framework that western culture has been brainwashing people into for centuries, pretending it’s “objectively true”.
Methylphenidate
Storing superglue in the fridge. Those tiny packs now actually last until I’ve used it all.
Now there’s a tip! Hang on walking to my fridge.
Bonus nugget: Store it in the door, next to the mayonnaise. It may not matter, but that’s what I (happen to) do, and it works like a charm.
I started running Linux 15 years ago, and switched to Linux as my main daily driver like 10 years ago. And I couldn’t be happier, but I still wish I would have started my Linux journey way sooner, especially since Windows is about as useful as used toilet paper these days…
SSRIs. I already knew this was likely to be my conclusion, but I really wish I started the treatment sooner. So many years feeling incompetent and damaged! Months of school missed, almost getting expelled, turning down invites, awkward friendship moments, scared of my own shadow… Anxiety is mentally brutal. It’s not just being scared or exaggerating, it’s a very real struggle that can destroy your social life – which is needed to live a healthy and prosperous life. I spent so many days unable to get myself out of bed because anything outside of that area seemed like a threat.
I started SSRIs 8 months ago. I can’t say it’s been perfect, but that’s not what I’m aiming for. Some periods are tougher than others, but I’m so grateful I’m at a state where I actually feel like I’m living – not a shell of a person. I’m not self-sabotaging myself as much as I used to, and I’m gaining more and more independence and confidence in my daily life. I’m finally able to say that I’m happy and motivated.
I’m sure that therapy will help resolve some of my childhood trauma, so I’m looking forward to that, but I want to go into the sessions with a clear mind. Without the medication, I wouldn’t be able to process and live by my psychologist’s advice. I’m extremely grateful to have found a treatment that works!
I describe my experience of SSRIs as cleaning the very dirty windows of a room and being able to see out at last, and to see the room itself with all that extra light, and to enjoy the feeling of sun on my skin.
I still remember the first time I woke up in the morning without a knot of dread in my gut. I was on SSRIs for a year, and then took them again for another six months later on. That was all 20 years ago or so.
Getting on HRT of course
Praying.
Finishing college. Huge life improvement.
One of the better things I think to come out of my marriage is my wife’s bachelors degree. At some point she told me one of her biggest regrets was not finishing it. I was like you still can. With just a little push she did (with honors) and it led to a whole different lower burn out career for her.
Learning Turkish. Made me a so much happier person.
