I am a white heterosexual cisman and I am constantly haunted by intrusive thoughts related to how I will perform or be perceived in bed.

Whenever I see depictions of gay - especially lesbian - relationships, I imagine the relationship being a lot less toxic, less detrimental to each other’s mental health and - most of all - less prone to performance related anxiety.[1]

Is this just prejudice[2] or is there some truth to it?

  1. I am fully aware of the hardships that homosexual people have to endure throughout their lives. This is an unrelated matter. ↩︎

  2. We all know how media and pornography paint a certain picture of homosexual relationships to serve heterosexual people. ↩︎

  • dazzlingclitgame@lemmy.world
    4·
    10 hours ago

    Yep!! And it’s similar for women - we can lose arousal easily if our mind isn’t fully focused on sex.

    Keeping the goal of sex as just having fun and making your partner feel good is important. Climax is nice, but not necessary to have good sex.

    • village604@adultswim.fanEnglish
      3·
      10 hours ago

      Exactly. I’m on antidepressants, plus my testicles don’t work so getting an erection can be a struggle.

      But I sure do love getting the opportunity to use my tongue to get my wife there.