I know the question sounds a little ridiculous, but I’ve heard similar stories where people know each other for a week or even a day, but still fall in love and build strong bonds.
Everyone is a stranger until you get to know them. Dating is one way of getting to know somebody. But I don’t think it’s ever ‘accidentally’.
Met my wife on a whale watch, or as she called it a “male watch”. She was even with her parents so I got meeting the in-laws out of the way on the very first day.
It reminds me of a scene from a movie or series that I watched, there was something very similar.
Oh. I know I already commented here, but I remembered a friend from DnD who got married to his wife within a month of meeting her. He said he proposed two weeks after first meeting her. They have been married for like 40 years, kids and all. Still together. Boggles my mind whenever I think about it
He showed himself to be a real man.
Without a doubt, and I presume she’s got to be on par. Haven’t met her. But still. Two weeks to propose is crazy, and accepting is even crazier. Happy for them though!
We used to call it “infatuation”
I met my first wife walking to a frat party. We hung out all night, were dating with a week and married with kids within the next 5 years
First is doing some unsung work there.
I proposed to my first wife in a month. We divorced after 7 years. I don’t recommend it. In fact I think no one should marry younger than 25.
I got married at 19 and I’m still married today after almost 16 years. We’re very happy. I think you’re right tho, waiting until 25+ is a good idea. We’re exceptionally lucky, imo.
my wife and I were either side of 20 when we married, it will be 30 years next year
We stayed together a lot longer than we should have. I think the first ones usually do. Divorce feels more like failing than overcoming an obstacle.
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One of my longest, best relationships was with a woman I met at a bar. We were both regulars, had seen each other before, but had never spoken. Turns out we were both out for a rebound one-night stand after each ending a long term relationship. Despite not looking for depth, we ended up talking the whole night, went home together, then got up and went out for breakfast and spent the whole next day together. We absolutely clicked and moved fast, and even thought we eventually split we are still friends.
Personal opinion from 30yrs of dating- spontaneous clicks happened more easily before internet dating, hook-up apps, or all the digital pre-screening. Right or wrong people make opinions about each other’s digital footprints, which are often only curated half-truths or their attempt to sell their idealize self image without their insecurities. Or, with Tinder, a lot of people aren’t looking for a click and are walls up about letting it happen; the terms of the relationship are short and clear. When the first impression is each other in the flesh you can (generally) get a better feel for who one another are.
I’ve already realized that online dating is not dating, it’s a kind of shop, seriously, instead of finding real people, people can successfully communicate with AI on a computer, it’s a perfect product, much better than a real person, isn’t it? For many years I tried to find at least someone on the Internet, but there, as I said, people consider each other something that can be used, thrown away and replaced in half an hour or even five minutes. In the early Internet, everything was not so bad, but the further it went, the worse it became.
dating was like that before online dating apps. you just went to bars or clubs with a lot of people.
they used to be called ‘single’s bars/clubs’ for a reason… because people went there to shop.
In queer circles it’s a not uncommon realization to figure out that you’ve been dating your “just a really good friend” crush for a period of time.
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Though, I guess that’s not quite a stranger situation
Met my significant other on discord. We were just friends. Lived 16 hours apart. Ended up talking on the phone constantly so we decided to meet up. Pretty sure we both fell in love that day. We’ve been doing the distance thing for a bit over a year, in 5 weeks I’m moving across the country to live with him.
Oh, that’s so cute.
Fwiw, my partner and I went on two dates and moved in together within a month. It’s been almost 6 years now
The three times I fell in love, reciprocated, it happened very fast. Two or three days. A fourth time, we were both into it, but it was so very clear we were wrong for each other, and I stopped myself, and pulled back. The other relationships I’ve had were not love, just fun.
Yes, the “love at first sight” trope is somewhat true. Something clicks, and when you both feel it, and are willing, it takes no time at all to fall hard. The stories of people meeting and then spending the whole day together, then the night, and falling in love are sometimes true, it does happen. But, and this is very important, it happens in person, and it happens somewhat rarely. That’s why you need to go out and physically be in the presence of other people, and interact with them. You can’t do it over the phone. And, because it’s not common, it is a “numbers game”, the more people you meet, the better your chances.
Yes? Occasionally people hit it off together at the pub or nightclub and they become long lasting relationships.
I hung out with my current partner once and we immediately clicked and fucked nasty, that was 4 years ago so yeah that does happen
I suppose I started dating my wife soon after I met her. I followed her from that house party to another one. Didn’t exchange contact info, but I sent her an email because the college emails were all first initial last name @college.com. Got intimate within the first week or two and then moved in together once we had both graduated
I usuallly enter into relationships with people after talkjng to them 1-5 times rather than getting to know them in depth. But i guess the fact that it has had to happen several times shows that the alternative method is more watertight for having a relationship that lasts 😅
Someone told me a while back that Rev. Sun Myung Moon was going to give a speech in a stadium near me. My first reaction was to be terrified at the idea of going, because he was likely to speak in Korean. The event might turn into a mass wedding without my even realizing it. Maybe I’m old fashioned but I’ve always thought you were supposed to at least talk to the person before going off on something like that.
