• applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 hour ago

    Meanwhile I try to get to know someone on an app who messaged me first and all I get are two word replies… Dating apps are trash.

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    Apart of that sending dick picks is dumb, her post sounds like classism at a full display. No matter that the capital is in education and not directly in money (but probably it is, too). I found this message pretty sad and upsetting. It’s like a millionaire bragging in front of a homeless.

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      I have a friend who solicits deck pics in her dating apps. Unfortunately the only men I meet who meet my standards for dating her end up being either gay or super gay.

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      Presumably, like spam, one would guess that it works sufficiently often to make it worth the attempt? 🤢🙃😅

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        I would guess that, for the people sending them unsolicited, it’s like the fastest way to get a smash/pass answer. It’s saying “I want to sex you, here’s what I got,” in two seconds rather than the colossal effort to type out two complete sentences. There’s also some unique psychology learning/behavior math that makes the stimulus (dick pic in this case) and its lower successes more likely to continue.

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      🥵😮‍💨 I love a woman who can talk nerdy to me.

      Then again I’m incapable of sending a dick pick and wouldn’t if I could because I respect that brain mmmmmm brain.

      #totallynotazombie #smartwomenaresexy

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    Why do men do this? Even when I was young and clueless I knew this would not work, and that also women talk to each other.

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      The goal isn’t what you assume it is. You’re projecting your own goals and concerns onto those men.

      My guess would be exhibitionism. They get sexual gratification from acting sexually towards women regardless of how those women feel about it. As for women talking to each other, that’s less of a risk on dating apps, and even irl it has never been decent at preventing sexual offenders from having plenty of victims.

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        I asked my man slut roommate (no shame, all sluts rock, all kind people rock) a while back, how he gets all these girls with this behavior?

        He said, “I just cast a wiiiiide net and the ones that respond are down”

        Beautiful and simple explanation. Just like he was, to clarify, above average beauty, and =< average smarts. Pretty good guy overall. I don’t recall he was a dick to rejection just moved along to the one that accepted.

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          But was he sending unsolicited dick pics or just saying hi? Because if it was the first one I got some news for you, and that news would be about him not being a good guy just because you didn’t have any problems.

          If he was just saying hi…why did you respond to a comment about specifically unsolicited dick pics?

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            So often the real thing is other men don’t know how objectifying and creepy their womanizing friends are, because they aren’t the target. They don’t see the behavior, often because they don’t want to, so its easy to ignore.

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      I too wonder this sometimes. Than I realize a lot of men are clueless in general about the opposite sex.

      I think the motivation of a lot of people like this is to just have meaningless sex. Someone is not flashing their dick to a future spouse. Not many stories I have heard where it goes “Once I saw that dick pic, I knew your father was the one.”

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        Not many stories I have heard where it goes “Once I saw that dick pic, I knew your father was the one.”

        Romance is dead.

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          I still haven’t sent my wife a dick pic but I’m making her add it to our engagement story.

          Mostly because it would make people laugh.

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    submitting your wrinkly ball sac to a stranger on the Internet

    She designs bioreactors and doesn’t even want to see mine for reference smdh

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    Your response should be “it appears you neglect application of saponification products during hygiene”. With a “🤢” for added punctuation.

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    Mean if you’re so smart then don’t open the app or their messages? Don’t download images in dms at the very least. lmfao