• JackbyDev@programming.dev
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    7 hours ago

    I think “What is the purpose of this meeting and why am I being included” is almost polite as-is, but “why am I being included” sounds a little rude. Maybe “what is the purpose of this meeting and is my presence needed?” Maybe “beneficial” instead of “needed” depending on who exactly you’re emailing.

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      6 hours ago

      If you ask the person who invited you to a meeting “is my presence beneficial” they’re going to answer “yes”. That’s why they invited you.

      The purpose is to figure out whether your presence is actually needed, not whether they think it is.

      I do like a lot of your ideas though, I might suggest:

      “What is this meeting about? I’m trying to figure out if my presence would be beneficial.”

      That way you are the determinant of whether your presence is necessary, and the other person has to articulate what the actual benefit would be as opposed to just saying “yes”.

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        3 hours ago

        If someone sends me a one word reply of “yes” to “what is the purpose of this meeting and is my presence beneficial” then it wouldn’t matter what I asked lol. They’re clearly on auto pilot. I’d probably add my manager and see what they say

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          3 hours ago

          If someone sends me a one word reply of “yes” to “what is the purpose of this meeting and is my presence beneficial” then it wouldn’t matter what I asked lol.

          lol

          But just to reiterate the point I was making earlier, the idea is to avoid someone responding to “what is the purpose of this meeting and is my presence beneficial” with something along the lines of “the purpose is to discuss X, Y, and Z. Yes your input would be a big help thanks.”

          Curious on your thoughts on the suggestion I made and whether it improves communication or not?

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            2 hours ago

            Someone telling me my input would be a big help would be satisfactory to me though. Maybe I’ve just had a different meeting style since I’ve been working from home though. If a meeting is something I’m not needed in I just work on other stuff. And because nobody can see me it doesn’t have the same vibe as doing it on the room. Plus my calendar isn’t teeming with meetings today like it has been at other jobs in the past. Back in 2019 not only was I in the office but I had a ton of meetings. I would probably take a different approach then. Or ask my manager if I was unsure.