I’m all of the above (gay, bi, trans, gnome)

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      20 hours ago

      It has been my experience that a lot of people don’t believe bisexual people even exist. It’s weird.

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        20 hours ago

        It’s probably more likely that straight people don’t even exist. Everyone is a little bit gay.

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          19 hours ago

          Careful with that line of thought; it also implies that everyone is a little bit straight.

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              19 hours ago

              The point I’m raising is that it’s dangerously close to telling a lesbian that they “just haven’t had the right dick yet”, etc.

              I don’t mean to rebuke, either. I made the exact same comment about everyone being a little bit gay when I came out back in high school, and was immediately met with the same response I gave.

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                15 hours ago

                While I take your point, the concept of telling a lesbian that they “just haven’t had the right dick yet” is almost always used as a slant to imply that they’d actually be happier if they were straight, not if they were bi/pan. It’s more saying “you’re wrong” rather than saying “you might enjoy something else in addition”.

                Being bisexual myself, I find monosexuality to be pretty weird and struggle to understand it. I tend to put people who identify as either straight or gay in the same camp - as just not being open-minded enough to explore what feels like the natural state to me; that all people are potential sexual candidates. While it’s a pretty blunt instrument, I tend to think of the Kinsey Scale as being normally distributed - that true 100% straight and 100% gay people probably exist but are extreme minorities.

                Again, that’s just my opinion, and it’s not one I’d ever levy at a person derogatorily. I just think as a species we haven’t yet come to the point of thoroughly and completely deconstructing the social and biological frameworks we’ve constructed around sexuality.

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      15 hours ago

      I’ve heard both straight and gay people say they wouldn’t date a bisexual because they don’t trust them not to sleep with someone else of another gender…

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        10 hours ago

        I’ll admit to being one of those people. I’m always a bit biphobic of new bisexual people unless they end up fucking me.

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      17 hours ago

      I’m straight up envious. Not to the point of hatred, but I’m a little peeved that they get to order from the whole menu.

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        8 hours ago

        I wish I could find everyone hot. In my experience I have pretty similar tastes in people regardless of gender, but those tastes are pretty specific so the majority of people are still not attractive to me. Also the bi cycle is real. I’ll cycle which gender I’m most into randomly and sometimes I’m not into anyone. It’s very confusing so it took me a while to figure myself out. It’s really not as great as you’re imagining.

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        14 hours ago

        “No, bro, that’s a penis. You want vagina. You’re just confused because they taste the same”

        “No they don’t.”

        “How would you know??? Nobody knows! You’re just confused.”