• Queen HawlSera@lemm.ee
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    The ONE time I heard this, I said it myself at the Gamestop where I’m a regular as a joke.

    I was asked Cash or Credit, and I in a faux-outraged voice just asked “Did you just assume my tender?”

    Then me and the cashier laughed.

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    You forgot “cis allies making fun on cis transphobes” which I calculate to be a larger slice of the pie than all the others combined.

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    I don’t even make the chart? CIS father of a trans kid trying to make the trans kid laugh when they try to get my attention at the store by saying “Dad!”

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    Yeah, the only time I actually heard that phrase in real life was at a transsexual gaming night, followed by a burst of laughter.

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        Did you just assume Gaming Night’s transness? Transsexual is a thing, and it’s distinct from transgender.

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          It’s not really that distinct, no. Not unless you’re transmed and believe pre and post op trans people need to divided from each other.

          Youre free to use whatever terms you’d like to use for yourself, but transsexual was how people referred to all transgender people until the term transgender took off in the late 90s.

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            go on bluesky and nearly the entire trans community uses the word transsexual. not in a transmed way (the community, at least my bubble, was very anti-transmed), but rather a “much of my trans identity comes from body dysphoria” way. when I was experimenting with bsky it was definitely a culture shock lol. I ultimately ditched bsky for separate reasons though

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              It implies a sex change op which is quite invasive of people’s privacy. It’s also inaccurate for a lot of trans folks who may only change their gender expression and avoid the operation altogether, hence the adoption of transgender that has the right emphasis.

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                  What’s the issue?
                  It has the wrong implications.

                  Sorry, I wasn’t clear!

                  It also sounds lewd but there’s a similar debate about “queer” even though that one has been mostly reclaimed.

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              Not op, but I was taught by one of my trans friends it was an old term and not very correct nowadays as it inferred being trans was something sexual and not just yknow, bring trans ig

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          Can you explain what it means to me? I’m nb and I’ve always disliked it because it tends to confuse people, making them think being trans is a sexuality.

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    Actually, trans is like 0.1% of the total population, so that sliver of trans people who say that should much tinier.

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    🟩 me when accosted by an irate middle aged woman while exiting the pointlessly gendered single seat bathroom (I am a fully housebroken husband)

    ETA: by housebroken I mean i sit when i pee and clean up anything left on the bowl or seat that flushing doesn’t handle. It’s just good manners

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    People have evolved stereotyping and assuming things cause it was beneficial from the evolutionary perspective.

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      Still is, people use heuristic thinking every day of their lives. It’s not like we’d be better off removing that part of us, the ability to make quick and decisive decisions should be applauded. We just need to remember that the first conclusion we jump to is not always correct.