• Wren@lemmy.today
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    3 hours ago

    Oh good. I don’t follow this com, another comment tipped me off.

    While I do enjoy a little bit of chaos and schadenfreude, it would be nice to block out user names. Call out the mistake, not the person.

    Most people here are lovely, but it only takes one match to start a fire. Might as well address some bullshit in these comments since I’m gonna get trolled by incels anyway…

    side note: I’m not a mod there.

    • The women’s com is trans and non-binary inclusive. Anyone who feels at home there (and is respectful) is welcome.

    • It’s not all bitching about men. Looking at the last twenty posts, one was about men and two were related to men. We talk about pads and health and essays and positivity memes and do fun activities on fridays.

    • I support men making their own support groups. Although the internet itself often feels like a menfolk support group(to me,) I’m sure there are plenty of things an easy to find, curated space, could offer men who want to be just a little more vulnerable, knowing they would be supported by the mods if any toxic women came in to devalue their opinions and experience.

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      3 hours ago

      I support men making their own support groups. Although the internet itself often feels like a menfolk support group(to me,) I’m sure there are plenty of things an easy to find, curated space, could offer men who want to be just a little more vulnerable, knowing they would be supported by the mods if any toxic women came in to devalue their opinions and experience.

      They should. the issue with this is they get branded as hate-groups or for ‘losers’. more or less automatically irregalrdless of what kind of community they are.

      the bigger issue is that generally people think men are evil by default, and women are good by default. and that’s not a cultural assumption most folks are willing to look past.

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        43 minutes ago

        There are support groups for men out there that are not generally charectirized as toxic. Toxic folks may attack men for going to them, but I can tell you before I transitioned I used to go to one, and no one ever verbally attacked me for it.

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        Don’t make them a hate-group for losers, then? This speaks more about the places you’re hanging out at.

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        3 hours ago

        Hello, incel/femcel/themcel #1! You just made all that up.

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          23 minutes ago

          oh hey, it’s the person what from the op screen cap. Here doing an encore performance. Everyone clap.

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          3 hours ago

          You could be more supportive. Men have issues specifically hurting them too, and not dismissing that fact won’t make women’s issues less relevant.

          Could we just be more supportive to each other?

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            Absolutely! I encourage support spaces for everyone. I’m calling out the irony that this user is up and down this thread arguing against the women’s community and spouting female priviledge ideology, while now complaining that men can’t have the same thing… or else people will complain and spout male priviledge ideology.

            There are many ways that sexism hurts men, which is why I’m down with support spaces and actively discourage all men bullshit when I see it.

            Claiming those spaces doomed from the start, because of people behaving exactly like Tittyfrog here, is bad faith as hell.

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            because that would be gay. part of the evil homosexual agenda we must stop!

            it’s manly/womanly/hetero to beat up on other people and harass them for their issues and problems. or at least, to pretend that their problems are less than those of this more oppressed group. plus it feels really good to call people names rather than acknowledge their humanity and/or their fallibility.

            but hey, we all know that billionaires are the most oppressed group on the planet. they are the true victims.

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              You’re the only one here harassing people for their issues and problems and pretending they are less than those of a more oppressed group.

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      I support men making their own support groups.

      While women are allowed to keep men out of their groups, it doesn’t work the other way around. Even gay men’s groups have trouble keeping invasive women from changing the nature of their groups.