Mine would totally be the opposite of where my life is now. I’d be thrilled to be play games, whereas I barely play one. I’d be watching lots of shows and movies, whereas now I don’t at all. Any idea I have about going to the gym or doing something active, I’d do it, whereas now I am idealistic about it.
My life is basically perfect right now except for society in general. I pretty much do whatever I want, I’m self employed so I don’t get exploited at work, my wife is my soul mate and my kids are thriving.
10 years ago my life was absolute trash, recently divorced, living in a hella sketchy basement apartment, unemployed and addicted to drugs. Don’t give up, even if you think your life sucks you can still turn it around.
yep. making good choices over time reaps rewards.
society is weird. everyone i meet the past few years is totally utterly miserable, so i’d rather just chill at home or with my few friends who aren’t miserable. misery is a choice people make.
If your definition of a perfect life is playing multiple video games and watching loads of movies then I’ve good news - you’re on the right timeline.
Playing guitar and singing, recording music, hiking thru forests and camping there, swimming in seas, traveling space.
And yes, I am actively working to create a world where we do not have much bigger existential risks.
Being free of the crushing grip of capitalism.
Take control of you life, be the person you want to be.
It’s easier said than done, but if I can do it, anyone can.
I wanted a lot of things for myself when I was younger, and like you, it was purely aspirational, I wasn’t actually doing anything about it and I was incredibly unhappy.
It took a long time, and a lot of introspection but I’m currently the person younger me could only dream of being.
I grew up homeless, but I’ve worked my ass off to buy a house. I grew up lonely thinking nobody would love me, and now I have an incredible wife. I grew up idolizing musicians and now I’m a bad drummer (but I enjoy it).
Make plans. Think about what you want your life to be and make reasonable plans on how you can make it happen.
Your list seems extremely doable, play games, watch movies. I can’t imagine what’s stopping you from that but plan it out of you need to. Maybe Sunday night can be a movie night? Idk whatever works for you.
Join a gym. Like actually pick a gym and sign up. Once you start paying for it, you’d be an idiot to not actually go, so you’ll go.
A part of it is holding yourself accountable. Maybe you don’t feel like going to the gym. Go anyway. Maybe you don’t feel like watching a movie, sometimes you have to force it just so you can look back at yourself and be proud that you tried, that you put in the effort to be the person you want to be.
It’s not easy to live up to your own expectations, but I promise the effort it takes is always worth it.
Of course I don’t know your situation. But reading your post reminded me of a younger me and I just wanted you to know you can do it. You can live your best life and you deserve it
Take control of you life
this is the problem though. i’ve noticed a huge explosion in people refuse to acknowledge this is at all possible. they are ‘victims’ of their emotions now apparently. not to mention ‘society’.
i saw a big thread on askreddit, the number one reply about ‘what do you find burdensome’ was ‘making choices’. I laughed out loud at the absurdity of it all. sooo many people just want to be thoughtless blobs that make zero effort and expect to be rewarded for it and think life is ‘unfair’ that they have get up to go to the bathroom to poop.
To crush my enemies, see them driven before me, and to hear the lamentation of their women.
One where i have energy and motivation.
Oh and am loved.It’d be me living off grid in a tiny home with my cat, growing food and making art.
The irony is, the more you accept there’s no such thing, the closer you’ll get to it.
Any where stress doesn’t affect me negatively.
I want to work on the sea. I want to meet new people. I want to destroy the current status quo of the world.
The simple things in life really.
my life is pretty much perfect.
i just don’t have a wife or kids. that is all that is missing. but when i date my happiness with my life is a major turn off for most women I meet. Apparently I’m supposed to be miserable with my life because I’m not a billionaire or something.
My life is a happy one, in part, because of no wife or kids. I wake up on a Saturday in my quiet, clean house and it feels fantastic.
plenty of people wake up to clean quiet houses who have kids.
Perfect for me would be a situation where I don’t have to go to work, and I could just walk down to the beach and lay in the sun and smoke weed everyday.
I think “perfect” anything is hard/impossible to properly think of, and the concept of a perfect life is, at the very least, extremely childish. “Good life” is understandable and achievable, and I guess it involves feeling like you belong, like your life has purpose, and being accompanied and cared for by those close to you, in whatever shape those things come?
4 hours of work 5 days a week. 5 weeks off per year.
Enough money to not worry about money.
A short run in the morning, short weightlifting after work, yoga in the evening. Two non consecutive rest days with just stretching and walking. To feel good enough to do that so I can keep feeling good enough to do that.
Going out on one weekend night to do something, staying in the other nights.
Pet cats, and maybe one dog.
Traveling somewhere every year.
And having enough money also to get the house in the shape we want.
Basically I want a well funded partial retirement.
