• Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works
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    24 hours ago

    Hot take: it’s totally fair to judge someone based on their avatar as that’s literary what it is, a pictorial summary of what you’re all about.

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      24 minutes ago

      Fully agree, you choose profile pictures based on how you want to present yourself to the world. It does communicate a message. A message that if not chosen with some level of care will signal different things to different people.

      If you come to a party wearing a stained shirt and haven’t showered I will assume you don’t actually care. Likewise, if you are arguing politics or mature topics and your profile pic is some obscure, underage anime girl, I will also make assumptions about how much actual media exposure you have that you choose to present yourself to the world with that image.

      This isn’t persecution or discrimination, this is just how people relate to each other, particularly in an information world where we can’t judge the rest of you.

      edit: based on the replies and threads in this post, it’s wild how many people do not give a shit how they are perceived by others in any regard and are angry at the idea that someone might judge them for how they present themselves. And then we wonder why everyone is so lonely and angry and cynical. These are related concepts guys, you HAVE to learn to socialize better. Seriously, this avoidance of accountability is eroding the whole fucking world.

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        6 hours ago

        You’re judging them based off of what is ostensibly a first impression they have chosen for themselves. I can’t imagine a scenario where that’s not fair. And you don’t need to form an entire opinion, but the opinion starts there. If their picture was a sports team I didn’t like, some furry shit, or even MAGA, I’d form some opinions out of the gate.

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          5 hours ago

          I do the same. I don’t have the time or patience to listen to every person on the internet to understand where they’re truly coming from. What I meant is if I did I would probably find out that more often than not my initial assumptions were too harsh or otherwise inaccurate.

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            4 hours ago

            That hasn’t been my experience. My experience is that my first impressions are woefully incomplete, but rarely wrong.

            You aren’t reading the wrong book, you’re just only getting the prelude chapter.

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      22 hours ago

      Counterpoint: sometimes it’s just a funny picture I like, and sometimes it’s some anime titties I like. Assuming it’s always going to be a meaningful representation of the user is unrealistic.

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        4 hours ago

        Counterpoint: sometimes it’s just a funny picture I like,

        Fully fair, likewise it’s also fully fair for someone to make judgements on you based on that funny picture if you choose to engage in different kinds of conversations outside of the space where people joke about funny pictures.

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          2 hours ago

          Sure, just like it’s fully fair for people to clown on someone for judging them based on something as unserious as a social media profile picture.

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            28 minutes ago

            Then congratulations, now instead of engaging and interacting it’s just an immature schoolyard shouting match which could have been avoided by taking more care in how you present yourself.

            But I am gathering that there are a lot of people who really enjoy schoolyard shouting matches and invite them because it makes them feel superior to fight others over trivial nonsense.

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              21 minutes ago

              Or, and hear me out here, instead of escalating to a “immature schoolyard shouting match” for whatever reason, you could look at a person’s pfp, have your feelings about it, and then move on to something that actually matters

              But I am gathering that there are a lot of people who really enjoy schoolyard shouting matches and invite them because it makes them feel superior to fight others over trivial nonsense.

              The irony of you saying this is not lost on me

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        4 hours ago

        I mean it tells me that you’re somebody who weighs levity over seriousness. Even if it doesn’t specifically tell me who you are, to imply that any choice is devoid of meaning is equally unrealistic.

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            2 hours ago

            Bro do you think I typed this through clenched teeth or something? My comment was in exactly the same light tone as yours.

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              2 hours ago

              Nope, just clarifying since you seemed to be confused. Anything else I can help with, let me know partner

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        21 hours ago

        In my mind, some edgy-looking anime dude is very different from anime booba.

        While both remove validity of argumentation, the former probably means you’re a minor, and the ladder means you will never have a social life outside the internet.

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          4 hours ago

          Doesn’t the ladder increase the odds of a social life outside the internet? Am I the only who watched Clarissa Explains It All? It’s called a social ladder for a reason!?

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          4 hours ago

          I love that you’re getting downvoted for this accurate assessment of how adults engage with each other.

          Honestly, I realized a while back that Lemmy is largely kids. Like, to me at least if you’re under 25 you’re a kid, and I think most users here are even younger. Maybe across the social internet broadly we have massively misjudged how many adults actually shape our global conversations.

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            38 minutes ago

            It’s obviously based purely on my own (admittedly vast) experience on the internet.

            I think the average age here is much higher than on reddit, for what it’s worth. Playing lots of video games, though, has taught me that at least half of the adults act like children anyway.

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      23 hours ago

      A lot of people don’t treat it as such though, and thus it becomes odd to assume so. But some things are just downright questionable, obviously.