• TexasDrunk@lemmy.world
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    Story time! This isn’t here to say that dudes have it worse or just as bad or anything. It just made me think of this.

    I have a good friend who wears wired earbuds often. He gets in a space where he doesn’t want to talk to anyone but he got to be out for one reason or other. I’ve watched person after person come up to him to talk. He rolls his eyes, takes out an earbud, make a huge show of pausing whatever he’s listening to while holding up the “Wait a second” finger. They’ll say whatever they’re trying to open with and he will nod and give the biggest fake smile. Then put his earbud back in. To continue the conversation they have to tap him again and wait for him to do it all over again. Some do, sometimes repeatedly.

    Some people seem to have no concept that others aren’t just waiting for the chance to talk to them.

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    The guy is not “so close to getting it.” He just appears that way because we don’t have the same bias he has. He’s actually quite far from getting it and he probably won’t even believe the truth when people explain it to him.

    If he was close to getting it, he’d have gotten it already.

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    Meanwhile, the dirty looks I get when I’m on a bike ride and I startle nearly every woman I pass because she couldn’t hear me say “on your left”

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    I hate this though because I am not just trying to say hi, I am literally trying to explain to women why they should listen to me, so if they have headphones in they will never hear the arguments in the first place that I have honed in preparation through conversations with my AI Wives.

    It is rude for women to just pretend like they can go about their lives and not center me, I am a man and I am the hero of MY STORY you have to listen to me.

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        I don’t mean this in a gay way, but men have such sexier minds than women, I just wish we could transport the minds of men into the minds of women so I could stop having to deal with these complicated feelings about my bros.

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            Ughh I know right women are always putting up walls, all I am trying to do is knock down walls for no reason while screaming “WHAT ABOUT ME” in a tantrum. Then my friend Kyle who is super jacked has to come over and put his hand on my leg to calm me down by stroking it.

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    All you got to do is wave your hands in front of face and ask if they are using aptx HD, AAC, or some other codec. It’s an easy conversation starter.

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    Does he usually walk up to random people on the street who aren’t wearing headphones to try start conversations? 😬

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      Judging by replies to that thread… yes, quite a bit. One woman described how she had to wear ear protection after ear surgery and a guy removed that to talk to her from behind. She was in pain for 2 days afterwards.

      Edit: my personal experience is I had 2 different guys tap on my shoulder and ask me to remove my earbuds by gesturing. Both times they were trying to pick me up. I was just on the way home from work, exhausted and also heavily married.

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        One woman described how she had to wear ear protection after ear surgery and a guy removed that to talk to her from behind. She was in pain for 2 days afterwards.

        Sounds like she suffered consequences while the man who harmed her suffered no consequences.

        We should be able to easily call police and sue for damages in such situations.

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        H…How can someone come even close to think it is a smart move to stand behind someone, invading personal space (at minimum with their arm), grabbing and taking away ones belongings aka the headphones and then expecting that person will be happy to have a nice chat with you which results in a date?

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      walk up to random people on the street who aren’t wearing headphones to try start conversations?

      It’s strange to me that this would be considered out of bounds. “Pickup artists” aside, this really ought to be more normal.

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      Of course not, just hot women who can’t wait to speak to him. Except, y’know, those bitches who blow him off immediately. But those bitches are just getting in the way, the really hot chicks are still waiting just for him.

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    First read I thought he meant that a lady might be blocking the path in the mall. Which happens too many times.

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    Took me a second to get that this was a dude missing the point. It seems so obvious I struggled to recognize how someone could be so blatantly unaware

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    I disagree that’s the point. The point is generally to distract oneself or to keep focus. Neither of these two reasons preclude the willingness to stumble into s.o. actually worthwhile.

    Whether earphones are supposed to serve as a sign to keep away depends on the culture and gender. In the States, for instance, people are way more often stopped by s.b. on the street than in Europe. The idea that s.b. would try to sell s.th. or preach to you on your path almost every day is very foreign to most Europeans.

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    It’s funny until you meet women that complain about not getting hit on and do this.

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      I don’t feel too bad for the 1 in 1000 women that weirdly crave being hit on in public with headphones on. Maybe some day she’ll meet the OP which is the 1 in 1000 men who weirdly don’t realize that people with headphones on don’t want to socialize.